Do you believe in spankings?

Question

Do you believe in spanking your children?

I am not saying beat your child But it says in the Bible. "He who spareth the rod
hateth his son. But he that loveth him correcteth him betimes." (Proverbs13:24)

"Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell."(Proverbs 23:13-14

For those of you who have a listening problem I did not say beat your child There is difference. I did not say that the rod stood for a spanking but a spanking can be used as guidance.

And no I do not get hit for doing something wrong I know the differance between right and wrong. The same thing I use spankings for to let my child know that they are doing something wrong. I never said hit them any where but on the tail. And dont use anything but your hand.

Answer 1

Please...., leave the bible out of it. Yes, I believe in spanking. Best darn thing around that we parents have left to fall back on in today's ugly world. More kids need spankings today!

Answer 2

The Bible is not a good guide to child-rearing.
Children die of beatings every day, so it is telling an outright lie.
It is also Biblical to stone disobedient offspring.
Spankings are NEVER necessary.
Misbehavior should be an opportunity to teach, NOT an excuse to punish.

The best advice I ever got was Never, ever hurt a child.

Edit: YOU cited Proverbs 23:13-14! It clearly refers to beating with a rod, as YOU yourself quoted. Why would anyone think you would use it, if you are not trying to justify hitting your kids?



I have heard many people make the ridiculous statement, "I never hit my kids, but I DO spank them.

Just how does one accomplish that?

NEVER EVER HURT A CHILD!

Answer 3

First, no. This translation of the bible is incorrect. This particular passage refers to being shepherds of our children and discusses how parents must use the rod as the shepherd uses the rod.

Now, does the shepherd smack the little sheep on the noggin with his stick? No. That is ridiculous. The shepherd uses the rod to guide. The sheep starts to wander off the path and the shepherd taps them lightly and repeatedly until they get back on the right path.

Fortunately, we have other tools. We can talk to our children and let them know our concerns. We can provide consequences to them. They're a little smarter than sheep.

What works best with kids is to provide reasonable consequences for their actions and let the consequences do the teaching.

A friend of mine talked about how he used to spank. His son was smacking his little sister and my friend grabbed his son and started spanking him saying, "WE DO NOT HIT IN THIS HOUSE!!!"

He started laughing mid-spank at the absurdity.

Spanking teaches hitting, violence and how to inappropriately act out in anger. If that's what you're after spanking is fine.

If, however, you want to teach your kids to be respectful, to make intelligent choices and to feel loved by you, it's best to let the consequences do the teaching.

Answer 4

Not anymore. Hindsight has shown me that spanking children teaches them to use violence. I have a 12 year old son that got regular spankings as a little boy and now every time he gets mad at another kid he wants to fight them. People say that you should wait a while to spank your kid until you aren't mad anymore, but that usually isn't the case. I read a book that says you shouldn't spank before your kid is 3 because they wont understand it. It also says you shouldn't spank them after age 8 because they will resent you for it. It seems like good advice to me. I have a 6 year old that I use other forms of punishment than spanking and it works just as well.

Answer 5

I spanked my first child once when she was two years old (now 6), I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for nearly an hour afterwards and vowed to myself that would never do it again. My children are 2, 5, and 6 and I have found that if you just talk out behavior problems along with sitting in time out kids can behave very well without spankings. I'm very soft spoken and patient. I think that is all it takes. . . . (also a lot of love helps).

Answer 6

After 6 kids I firmly believe that spanking should only be used in rare cases, like your 3 year old running out into a busy street. There are other ways to disipline your children that are much more effective.

Answer 7

in the old testament it also says to do a lot of other stupid things, but we live under grace now, read your new testament, and don't take everything so literally, i am a good christian woman and i love my bible, but i would never hit my children in any way, if you brake the law can the police spank you? don't your children deserve the same rights

Answer 8

First off, I am a child, not a parent, so my view might be slightly less objective than I might like, but I shall strive to my utmost to produce an unbiased response. I am not sure as to why spanking suddenly became child abuse, I suppose many parents stopped using it as a punishment and started using it as a way to vent anger. I believe that is the problem with spanking, parents must use it carefully, they can't let their frustrations come out in the punishment. Also, spanking should be considered as a more severe punishment, by that I mean that it should not be used for every little slip up, you should use it judiciously. I have heard, that spanking causes children to hate their parents,and you may have heard the same, but to me that is such bullshit that it is almost amusing. Kids do not like to be punished, and they might get angry with you for punishing them, this is something that you might have to deal with as a parent. Forgive my loquaciousness, but I am trying to give you a broad background to my answer. I myself was spanked, did I like it then? Of course not I was being punished. Do I hate my parents? No, I love them more than I could rightly portray with simple words. Do I believe spanking is child abuse? Here the black and white fade to gray. It is all about the parent, as a parent you must use it conservatively, and as a way to show your child they did something wrong, not as a way to show them you are angry with them. This is a hard thing to do, but parenting is not easy. I Believe spanking can work, you just have to walk that line. Good luck.

Answer 9

NO!!!!! theres no point to it at all, it teaches the violence, then they think its ok to hit. an angry adult with high adrennilyn is much much stronger than a child and could really hurt them. thats when they will really be sorry. there are so many better ways to teach our children . they may take more time and patients but in the end, its well worth it. your childrn will grow up to be well adjusted, non violent, happy adults, look at how many adults today need therapy from abusive childhoods. its a cycle that I feel that we should end with this generation of children. also I feel that after awhile children become amune to spanking. then you end up spanking harder and harder and harder every time. Please dont hit your children, find better ways to punish them. take away toys, and privlages.

Answer 10

No. Discipline should be about teaching wrong from right, not forcing someone to do something with the threat of force and pain.
Humans have the ability to communicate using higher intelligence. We should use that ability with our children instead of punishing them like jungle animals.