I lost the girl that ment the most to me in the world. We broke up and i know its sounds stupied but i feel like ill meet new girls no problem i already have been asked out on 2 dates. though these girls mean nothin to me no matter how hot they are. I just feel like now i will have to settle for 2nd place and end up with someone who is good but nothin compared to me ex and what he had and shared. Is this true well i every find that someone who i could feel the same for or evening that i could feel more for or am i doomed for the rest of life.
2007-03-25 08:42:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will find someone better and someone that means the most to you and then you won't feel like you have to settle for second place. You'll have first place instead.
2007-03-25 08:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. I know eventually, I'll meet someone new but I know I'll never feel the same way I did about my ex. I, too, have wondered whether this means that I will have to "settle" for someone later in life because I know my ex and I were perfect for each other. I guess my advice is to imagine someone completely similar to your ex except for without whatever caused you to break up. Maybe if you find someone like this, it won't be settling. At least that's what I'm hoping. . .
2007-03-25 08:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont settle...and stop looking at other girls and comparing them to your ex. Part of getting over the past relationship is dating new people...no they may not be exactly what your looking for but it gets you back "into the groove" of dating. Obviously your ex is your ex for a reason..whether that reason is set on her terms or yours. So the only way to "get over" it is to start dating around. Stop looking at these new girls as "second best" and start looking at them as what they have that is better or what they do that is better than your ex. I'm sure your past relationship was wonderful....but now its time to move on and find someone better. Just keep the outlook of "I know that if I loved my ex as much as I did, and she was as wonderful as she was...I can't wait until I find the woman I'm going to spend the rest of my life with...and how much more wonderful she'll be." Good luck!
2007-03-25 08:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position, but there are some other ways to look at it. You met that girl after probably being with someone before her. And you never knew the last one existed, so look at it as an opportunity to meet someone even more special and maybe more like you. You broke up for a reason and like myself, that reason was enough for her to leave. Now, someone may come along who is willing to work through those same issues with you and stand by you through thick & thin.
2007-03-25 08:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by BM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over her. Simple as that. You had something good and now it's gone. The only thing you can really do is move on. Gradually get rid of things that remind you of her and keep busy.
You will find someone as good as (or probably better than) your ex. You're just at the point right now where you're semi-mourning the loss and the future seems hopeless. It isn't.
2007-03-25 08:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey wake up,
Have you ever paid attention to what you ask for? because someone or some being is listening. So if you ask for second place that is what you will get. So be smart and be careful what you ask for. if you just broke up you should not be doing any serious date for at lease 6 months, you need time to heal from the pain and anger of beating your self up.
2007-03-25 08:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you Will not be doomed but if you can't still be friends then you lost but you should go with the flow on these dates you just have to take the jump we all never make the same jumps or mistakes twice but if you just sit and not even try to go out and have fun with other girls then you won't know what having fun is like but you at least have people coming your way and you can't just brush it off like others you need to get to know others more then just the appearances of them. we all look at appearances when it comes to dating and you have to see what makes them who they are.Corny I know but even the most unlikeliest person could be what you need but you never know if you don't jump on right even after this spill so get back out there something is around the corner but you have to go out and find it for yourself be you and you alone.
2007-03-25 08:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Settle!! There is MANY fish in the sea!! There is a lot of men and women in the world that would give there right leg to be involved in a sincere relationship. Don't just settle, it is not fare to you or the person that your trying to be with.
2007-03-25 08:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by PATRICIA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to hang around with your friends..do fun things..do things that u have always wanted to do.learn new things..(perhaps cycling..swimming or skating)..that would keep u busy.Try to help people..that would make u feel wanted.U'll find someone special eventually..trust me.Just hang in there..u r in my prayers..good luck
2007-03-25 08:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows who they'll meet. That's life. What made him number 1? How do you know this if you haven't dated a lot?
2007-03-25 08:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋