I was in a bad relationship (which I ended) and this guy completely torn down any self esteem I had at the time. I'm slowly started to forget what he's done and said, but I need alittle advice on how can I rebuild my self esteem? I'm really wanting to be in a relationship, but I don't think any guys notice me. I feel really unattractive. Any advice would be helpful.
2007-03-25 08:42:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you need to realize that you are TRULY a treasure!!! Never mind what that JERK said to you!!! Forgive him and forget him, but bravo for dumping the loser! But letting him get inside ur head is letting him win. DONT DO IT!!!!
You just need to realize your true value is priceless!! In God's love letter to you, The Bible, he told David something he wanted to say to you. This is the prayer of someone who realizes their value in God's eyes: psalms 139
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body." God wove you together into the wonderfully unique and beautiful treasture you are! It's only a lie to believe you're anything but EXACTLY the art God designed you to be! Before the beginning of time, God was thinking about you. The shape of your face, the color of your eyes. Your laugh. Your height. Your smile. Every hair on your head was planned and thought out by the Lord. You were created in his infinitely valuable image. God looks at you with completely different eyes than your own. He loves every part of you because he made you into the perfect creation you are. Do you know what God himself said of you? He says in Isaiah 45:11 "the king is enthralled by your beauty." and later, he says "All glorious is the princess within her chamber; her gown is interwoven with gold. In embroidered garments she is led to the king...." That's God's opinion of you, and as the one who knows you better than anyone else, His opinion is the only one that matters. You are his princess! Never NEVER NEVER!!! forget your worth to him! you are priceless in his eyes!
2007-03-25 09:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girlie advice for u dear. First stop thinking that u r unattractive. Wash ur face, wear somethin sexy n stand in front of the mirror and I'm sure u'll be looking at the world's most beautiful girl. Apply a li'l bit of makeup and walk out of ur house confidently and I'm sure u'll make heads turn. Itz not how u look dear but how u carry urself that matters. And for a relationship be careful before committing in the future. Guys can have the best and the worst impacts on our lives. So if u want the best therez no harm in waiting. And if u really like a guy. Be confident and go up to talk to him. All da best chweet heart!! U remind me of myself in school years.
2007-03-25 08:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by winterblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you hate it how men can do that to a woman?! I have the same problem. However, this is what I am doing to work on it. I am trying to stand up for myself more and to realize that I AM a desirable woman. You need to realize this before you let some other man run all over you again. You have to break the cycle! Do whatever it takes to make you feel pretty: get your hair done, work out, eat good food, buy some new clothes, and hang out with friends that make you feel happy to be you. Enjoy life without a man, and chances are, you will run into a good one without even looking for him! Good luck!
2007-03-25 08:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem about a year ago my boyfriend completely ruined my life i loved him so much but now i hate him i know hate is not a nice word and it is a very strong one but i really do the best thing for you to do is meet up with old mates and live every day as it is your last! I really hope your self esteem grows just believe in your self. take care
2007-03-25 09:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by tinytashyxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Dear Fallings.....a person can only be "torn down" if he/she allows it. Whatever this guy did to you, you must take responsibility for allowing him to make you feel the way you do and make a promise to yourself that you will NEVER allow yourself to feel that way again. Period. Now is not the time for another relationship. Now is the time to do for YOU! To build up yourself and try something new for yourself...to comfort yourself. Find a new hobby, do some volunteer work with kids and all of a sudden you will feel beautiful and fulfilled. THEN...when you least expect it...someone will come into your life who is right for you. Take some time off for yourself. YOU are number one and YOU need to find that personal relationship with yourself before you have anything to give to anyone else. Godloveya.
2007-03-25 08:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep look in the mirror and say to yourself "I am a beautiful, intelligent woman who deserves the best things in life." I know this may sound silly, but it really works. You really have to believe it. And as for this guy who did this to you, he's a loser. He doesn't deserve sh*t. Remember you have to love yourself before anybody else can love you. When you get your self-esteem up you will hopefully find someone who truely deserves you and you'll completely forget about that loser.
Be happy.. you deserve to be!! and good luck!!
2007-03-25 08:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_05_yeha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go do something for yourself. Buy a new outfit and get your hair done and remember there is someone that will treat you better just dont follow the pattern of men that are abusive
2007-03-25 08:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't love anybody else unless you love yourself first! this may well take a while, but buy yourself some new Low rider jeans, buy a nice tight New Thong, let it show while your out, in return men will start noticeing you alot more than they do now.
thus bringing your self estem up high and fast!
2007-03-25 08:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to a therapists would help...and try to make a list of all your accomplishments and all the things you're good at, compliment yourself on it...It's a baby step process.
2007-03-25 08:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Suzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol talk to the opposite sex...find someone you kno thats a guy and talk to him about ur feelings...
no seriously...its hard at first, but you'll understand how easy it is when you talk to a guy then ur girl friends...because your girl friends are always on ur side...while guys makes mistakes trying to defend theirs ;)
2007-03-25 08:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by redpoker777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋