2007-03-25 08:31:35 · 8 answers · asked by Shawna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This will sound selfish and I know that it is... but I'm asking anyway. My husband's mom is blind. Her husband and two daughters never take her anywhere. We started a new church about 8 months ago, and started taking her almost immediately. Every week, I enjoy going less and less. She sits up front in my seat and she and my husband carry on conversations while I'm stuck in the back seat with the kids fighting. He whispers with her during service and walks her in to eat afterwards (which is totally understandable). I just don't feel like this is the "family" thing it should be and I feel left out. I just don't want to take her and I feel guilty for that. I don't know what I should do. Someone needs to take her, but I want to go as a family, just he and I and our kids. Please advise. Thanks.
2007-03-25 08:37:45 · update #1
I understand where you are coming from, my wifes mother likes to be the center of attention and it annoys the hell out of me. She likes to be involved in all aspects of our lives that should be personal.
In your case she may not know what she is doing or your husband for that matter. If a rational conversation can occur, i reccomend it happen soon.
And the other people who do not know what you are asking need to open their eyes a bit more
good luck
2007-03-25 09:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Brian D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok people, whatever is your problems i dont know. there is ample information here for you to understand the question. anyway, i would talk to your husband about it in a calm way, and i think that you could find a way to integrate her into the whole family thing. you all shouldnt be separated, and they should not be talking during the service! although she is blind, that allows her to sit upfront, she could sit further back with the family kids and all. you could also ask the pastor for advice, im sure he would have some good ideas for you to explore. you arent wrong for feeling the way you do, however when you say just you and the family, only in american culture so much do you see people saying that and then excluding grandparents, or inlaws wich is not so cool. there is a time for the immediate family of course, but this one is a bit dicey! i agree with you, and think your expierience at church should be more than what it is.
2007-03-25 15:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by johnofthehills 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are being selfish and your going to show your kids this if you dont stop it....just get in on the conversation when their talking, just try and be more involved with the situation at hand you might just be surprised how things turn out, but if you fight this and grandma stops going your kids are gonna know that it was you that made this happen and your spouse might be alittle upset with you also, do you believe in god then trust him to help you thru this ask him what you should do
2007-03-25 15:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is "good luck". Get your husband to stand up to your MIL because it's his mom. You do what you feel comfortable doing concerning religious beliefs. You won't be able to be good enough for her anyway. She'll always find something wrong. She'll get over it. Been there-done that. Godloveya.
2007-03-25 15:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shawan next time think before you asked a question
2007-03-25 15:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to help with this once but you have some unfinished work to do....
2007-03-25 15:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by missie_d_73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good start mind finishing
2007-03-25 15:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK...
What is the question ?
2007-03-25 15:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋