this is giving me hope..is it true?

Question

>>if u want ur ex gf/bf back, then u gotta build the attraction that u had for one another at the beginning. Dont contact ur ex for about a month after the breakup, let them miss u and think about u, and in this month go and exercise, go out with friends, and hav a great time. then after a month go and do sumthing fun with them, and wen they see u after that month, u will be happy and self-confident and they will notice that change in u and it will impact on them. continue these fun dates (activities) for a little while and u'd be surprised and how the attraction between the 2 of you will grow again and it will re-establish the relationship and you will be back together. <<

i really do love my ex.. do you think that the above is true and if so would we both have changed and would our relationship be stronger? what should i do, leave it and hope that one day i will be strong enough to face him and call him in a month or wait till he calls.. coz i cant seem to move on at the moment!

Answer 1

Honey, people change; places change; emotions change...thank God! There is NOTHING that would draw me to my ex! If anything, I have learned what to avoid. Just chalk it up to a life experience and move on. Godloveya.

Answer 2

Well, for starters, I'd take anything with excessive use of the u/ur abbreviations with a grain of salt. Not that it automatically invalidates what is being said, but in my experience, people who type like that are rarely competent.

Next, there really aren't any general rules of attraction, or relationships. Because what one person is looking for, and what turns one person on, will never be exactly the same as what does it for any other person. The suggestion given above might work, or it might not. Use your own judgement. In any situation, the best thing to do is know what your objective is, understand what the situation is, and work toward your objective, based on that. Maybe give it a try, but if it doesn't seem to be working, alter your strategy.

Finally, remember that sometimes it's just not meant to be. If nothing appears to be working, perhaps the attraction just isn't there on both ends. If it becomes apparent that this is the case, let it go, and try to move on. Ask yourself, "Do I really want someone who I have to...for lack of a better word, force or manipulate...to like me?"

Answer 3

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I have a Friend on line she had the same problem. We charted foe 2 weeks. And i helped get her guy back. Now she is my friend for life. You dont put a time limit on love. You do it when it feels right. You should have fun even if you are together. You must give each other space. Go out with your friends. and date if you like. He will find out soon enough. So if he wants you he will come for you.

Answer 4

You're trying to find a mathematical formula for love and fate and there is none. You can read all the cosmopolitan mags in the world and wathc all the Dr. Phil shows recorded, in the end, you have no control over what that other individual is going todo or what life is going to throw at him/her to influence their decisions.
Be careful trying to play all the silly asss games, you'll be the one getting played.

Answer 5

I am in a similar situation. I agree with your theory, but who broke up with who? In my case, I was dumped, but I really think my ex is one of the greatest girls I will ever meet and she means the world to me. One thing, she doesn't want a relationship with me. While this makes me sad, I do have to accept the fact that this might be one-sided and I might have to just give up. If you think both of you want to get the relationship back, then maybe hold off for a montha & then trya and slowly start talking again. If he does love you, he might be willing to reconcile.

moving on is tough. for both sides. I know it is for me right now.

Answer 6

you can't move on cause your mind is still on this guy. when you don't talk to your ex for a month its not you scheming on how to win them back, its how to get over them and see where you and them went wrong. what you wrote above isn't true yeah the activities you stated might help take your mind off him. letting go takes time and your just in the beginning process.. within time you'll be ok. i've learned that cause i've given me and my ex-girlfriend space and now when i think about it.. i wouldn't want her back cause i don't want to go through all that bullsh*t again.

Answer 7

I think you shoudl go with the above plan... Maybe he will come back or maybe this will help you move on. Try not to dwell on the pain, concentrate on makeing you feel better and remember you do not need a guy to make you feel better... you have to feel good about yourself before anyone can feel good about you.

Answer 8

Just open the channels of communication and tell him how you feel. That way you'll know where you stand, and if he doesn't fell the same you can start mending your broken heart and move on. But maybe he feels the same, and you can stop wasting precious time and start making up!!! Good luck!

Answer 9

sounds like a great plan! I think it would work if you both still have feelings for each other. I, on the other hand, would never get back w/my ex even if he paid me. Trust issues, ya know.

Answer 10

it sounds like a good plan we don't know how your ex. feels. be nice and on of the bigged\st problems i see with women is that they act like little kids and have to get there way. true love is understanding your mate and wanting to be with them and they are your best friend. if not your best friend there will be problems down the road.