I know of a few instances, where these couples agreed to get married in a year or so. How can you tell if you're courting "the one"?
2007-03-25 08:18:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll just know!!!!
2007-03-25 08:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, from personal experience I think it's Best to wait longer than that mostly because there's no way you can really get to know someone in that short of time! If you give it more time, as time goes on you will discover more and more traits about this person and some may be beyond what you can tolerate or handle. I do know of 1 couple who knew each other 7 months and they have been married over 6 years so I guess it just depends on the people involved. I was married at 19 and divorced at 20. The man I married became someone so totally different than the man I dated. I am positve that given a little more time I would have seen this. I say give it as much time as you can! Marriage is a holy bond but now people thinks it's an easy out, like I did:( Hence the divorce rate!
2007-03-25 08:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "the one"...there are many, but when we meet one that's a good fit, we don't tend to look further until/unless that relationship ends...
I think people who marry quickly are showing that they are needy and trying to legally bind the other person to them so a break-up won't be easy and therefore they are more likely to stick it out longer...
It takes more than a month for romantic love to develop, although we can certainly feel a strong attraction to another very quickly...some quick marriages work because the people are just lucky and love did develop over time...however why not wait to be sure? A year goes by pretty quickly...if you feel like someone is the one you want to marry after only knowing them a month, then why not wait 11 more months (or some other reasonable number) to be sure? To have time to get to know each other more...
2007-03-25 08:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might think I am a poor person to answer this question, as I am on my way to a divorce right now.
I would say that getting married after a year is fine, and can work out beautifully, but before that, I'd recommend going to marital counseling to make absolutely sure that both of you know what the other wants and thinks. I did this, and my wife changed her mind about two years into it and has resented me ever since, so MAKE ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN THAT S/HE LOVES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE!
-Bart
2007-03-25 08:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting married this soon in a relationship usually only works in a few very rare cases. You might want to try living together first to see if you will be compatible for a long period of time.
2007-03-25 08:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just know. It resonates through every fiber of your being and there are no red flags. As long as both people are mature enough to know that it's a serious committment, it can last a lifetime. If I could, I would've married my fiance' after knowing him for only a week. I just knew he was "the one" and that we'll be together forever.
2007-03-25 08:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by bnm4infinity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's up to you two to discover that. To be married you have to be of age so that means being mature,financially,emotionally, and mentally ready for this type of commitment.
If the two of you have it all together why not give it a shot but know it's a lifetime commitment. Take this matter into deep consideration.
2007-03-25 08:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in love at first sight. However, I do think you should get to really know the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with. You are making vows and they are not taken seriously these days.
2007-03-25 08:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not something people that you don't know can answer. You have to look inside your heart. You are the only one that will really know if they are "the one."
2007-03-25 08:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by !~!JeWeL eLiZeBetH!~! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the two people! There is nothing wrong with it, but sometimes it doesn't work!
2007-03-25 08:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by 80srock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nothing wrong...Sometimes relationships proceed very fast.
As long as they are old enough to know what they are doing..
2007-03-25 08:22:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋