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Question

Ok! I need the answer fast! I'm doing very good in school and my dad said I can have a cell phone if I get on the A honor Roll and I did now he changes his mind and I've tried everything I can to convince him to change his mind over again but he won't. So any advice or things I can do or say to convince him to change his mind again? Please HELP ME PLease!

Answer 1

Maybe it works to have a talk with him...
Tell him that you thought you had an agreement, and that you are very disappointed that he's doesn't honor this agreement although you held up your end of the bargain...
Try talking to your mum to but try not to get angry! Stay polity and calm and keep saying how disappointed you are...
I hope it helps!
Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm a dad of three kids (ages 17, 14, and 11. two girls and one boy). I think that he is showing a poor example by not living up to his word. Maybe he made the offer believing that you wouldn't be able to make the honor roll. He may think it is too expensive and said that so you would quit asking for a cell phone.

My kids all have cell phones and it is a relief to me that I can reach them if I need to and that they can call for help anytime.

Promise him that you won't overuse the phone (lot's of phone calls and text messages make the phone really expensive). Then make sure that you don't overuse it and that you're friends don't text you a lot. You really need to be responsible with it if the expense is what he is worried about.

When one of my children overused their phone, I took it away for a month. The second time I took it away for six months.

Answer 3

You could nicely point out to him that when he says one thing to you (that you could get the cell phone IF you got on the A honor roll,) but then doesn't keep his word, it discourages you to want to try and live up to his expectations. It was wrong of him to not keep his end of the bargain. You could tell him to give the cell phone a trial run, if you don't keep up the grades or use it irresponsibly, then he can just cut it off. Good luck.

Answer 4

Could finances be an issue? A cell phone is a long term financial commitment and maybe he's not willing to take that on right now.

Have you considered getting a part time job and then offering to pay a portion of the cell phone bill? If you show him that your willing to take on that commitment with him, he may change his mind.

Answer 5

As a parent of an honor student, I know what works and it isn't arguing. You've made your case already. If you really want a cell phone that badly, go to him and say "Daddy, about the whole cell phone thing, I just wanna say I'm sorry. I know if you could afford it and wanted me to have one, you would get it for me. I don't have to be rewarded for making all A's anyway, I just wanted you to be proud of me." He will say that he is proud of you. You just give him a hug and say "Thank you, daddy. I love you" Let it go from there, don't even mention it again, and see what happens within a week. That's the kinda crap my son pulls on me and the guilt works!

Answer 6

Well, as a parent I can understand his concerns about you having a cell phone. With that said; one thing I am sure to do as a parent is follow through with what I say I will do if at all possible. If his refusal is due to money, please be understanding and let him work things out.

Also - did you do something you shouldn't have, and is that why he's not giving it to you? Is there something that's not being listed here?

If it isn't about money or a behavior problem, I would advise you to tell him that it hurts you that he changed his mind and that as much as he wants to be able to trust you, you want to be able to trust him. If he tells you he will do something and then changes his mind without a very good reason as to why, it's going to hurt that trust.

-Bart

Answer 7

Trouble is, you've left out the most important thing; if we don't know WHY he's saying no, we can't help you.

So, what does he say?

If he can't afford it, there's nothing you can do but make him feel bad for having lied before (unless, say, he's lost his job since he promised, in which case, you just need to accept that).

The important thing is that he did promise. Let him know that, just as if you had broken a promise to him, he'd be deeply disappointed and wouldn't trust your promises any more, you're disappointed in him, and no longer trust his word.

All of this assumes he doesn't have a legitimate reason, but, as I say, you failed to tell us his reason.

If you did something bad, or broke your word, or if his financial situation has changed, then you just have to accept facts.

Answer 8

If your father made that promise to you,then he should have kept it. He's not setting a very good example for you.
Have you proven to him that you are resposible and would know how to handle having a cell phone? Maybe that's what he's concerned about? Tell him that he can set down the rules and regulations and that you will follow those rules. If not,he simply takes the phone away.
Maybe you could get a part-time job and buy your own phone.That way you would be responsible to yourself.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

First of all, do not start a fight or throw a fit. Your goal here is to prove to him that you are responsible. Do your research. Find out exactly what kind of phone you want and how much it will cost him. Give him good reasons that you want a cell phone. (And I mean good reasons from a parent's perspective, ie he will always be able to get ahold of you, what if your car breaks down etc.) Calmly explain to him that you worked very hard to get your grades up and that youdid your best to uphold your end of the deal.

Answer 10

Maybe you could find ways to pay for the phone. I don't know if you are old enough to get a job yet, but if not, maybe you could do some extra chores around the house. Talk to him and show him that you are mature enough to have an adult conversation about it and maybe he will change his mind. Good luck.