How can I tell someone off politely lol?

Question

Okay there is this woman that I work with who only seems to be a complete ***** towards me and not anyone else. I have no idea why but it pisses me off. I don't want to cuss her out or anything because she is an older woman and I'm all for the respecting elders stuff. But I want to make sure she treats me with the same respect that she gives the other people at work. I don't want to come off as whiny or that I can't deal with nasty people. But I think that is very unnecessary coming from a coworker. I am trying very hard not to slap her.

I thought both answers were great but I don't know how to pick both as good answers and split the points up :(.

Answer 1

Wow, that's hard to work in that kind of environment.
Just ask her directly, using all the manners your mother taught you. "Have I done something to offend you?"
Perhaps you just remind her of someone and she is taking it out on you.
Perhaps she is just jealouse of the way you look. Some people take an instant dislike of others because they themselves are insecure.
Just remember, it's not you, it's her. Be especially nice to her, and make sure others are around when you come in contact with her (They can back you up when her attitude becomes out of hand).
If you can not resolve this situation with her in a kindly manner on your own, you must speak to your boss about it! Perhaps other co-workers have noticed her attitude? Ask your boss to ask them (in private) if they have noticed her unusual treatment of you.
A good boss should be able to deal with employee relationships.
Good luck and keep smiling!

Answer 2

You should just be direct. Pick a time when you are both free and others are not around and ask her about the situation. You can say something as simple as "I get the impression you may dislike me, have I done something to offend you?" She will then either tell you why she treats you differently or say she does not feel she does treat you differently.

If she provides a reason for you it is your choice whether or not to apologize and/or amend your behavior, or to accept your differences. If she does not have a reason or says she does not treat you poorly she will likely be more aware of her conduct in the future and less likely to treat you badly.