OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt badso a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Sincethen I have said hi to him 2 on msn.Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to. Does he feel guiltyor miss me?
2007-03-25 08:10:19 · 10 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he feel guilty for ending it & that's why he keeps in touch w/ me? Or is it cuz he realy wants to just keep in touch and he misses me? I don't want anyone to pity me, esp him.
2007-03-25 08:11:16 · update #1
He was just checking back to see if you had changed your
mind yet about the sex before marriage thing..
2007-03-25 08:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he cares for you, but it was hard for him to not want to have full sex with you. He thought he could find it elsewhere a lot easier. Maybe now he is coming to the conclusion that you are someone he really likes being with, but has to be a little to the side so he doesn't feel sexually tense again. He has to be somewhat honorable in the first place because he stood by you the time you were together. He didn't pressure you into intercourse to a degree that you would do it, and believe me, a man can do that.
I say stick to your guns and your beliefs, whatever they may be, and enjoy life period. Date him once in awhile, but don't be just dating him unless he makes another commitment, or unless it is to painful for you to be a " once in awhile".
2007-03-25 15:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by ldylopes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt disrespected with his answer of "he wants to see you once in a while" then stick with your gut. He took off for a year, I'm sure has dated during that time, possibly got bored and decided to call you up. I've had that happen with ex's too. Didn't go over well with me. When you say "bye forever" to someone, you should stick to what you say. Since you're still keeping contact with him, he's picking up mixed messages from you. Don't go back with him if you have doubts. Don't be so concerned about how "he" is feeling, its' up to him to tell you. Focus on how you are feeling about this situation, and stay true to yourself.
Good luck
2007-03-25 15:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I've seen how many questions you have asked over and over again about this guy and I'm afraid that It is very shocking. I know it is hard when you are really close to someone and they leave you, but the fact is that it is life. Life is a series of loses and it is how we deal with these loses that make up our life. He really is not worth ot if he can't see how wonderful you are. Please go get some professional help, with this I know how it is to lose someone that you love.
2007-03-27 04:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by juniper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god , girl you are reading into this thing way to much, "does he really like me or just feeling guilty" c'mon whats the big deal with going out once in a while just to keep in touch,i mean its not like hes using you for sex or anything, so his motives must be genuine
2007-03-25 15:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that he feels guilty, but it sounds as if he misses you.
From my perspective, there is nothing you've written here that shows that he *should* feel guilty. He was with you, he ended it, and now he wants to see you again. As far as I can see, he hasn't wronged you in any way.
2007-03-25 15:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bartleby the Scrivener 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows you did nothing wrong. He has to respect your wishes (wether he like it or not). In this day and time it's hard for a man to go without sex. It's best that he's not in your life if he knows he can't wait.
2007-03-25 15:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh come on, use the noggin he just wants laid.
2007-03-25 15:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by fenderfan823 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he just wants to be friends, or he wants to do you
2007-03-25 15:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he misses u
2007-03-25 15:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by sexyjasmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋