ok, so me and my friend normally get along, until this guy from our school that i had liked asked me out!! i was so thrilled and of course i said yes. my friend didnt even know him until i pointed to him one day at school. she admitted he was hot and then started crushing on him while i was dating him!!!! the relationship didnt last very long cuz it was just akward and i didnt really like him that much anymore, so we broke up. then the day i broke up with him, she asked him out and always shows-off about it and firts with him. i was the one who broke up with him but should i be mad at her for asking him out that same day!!??
2007-03-25 08:10:16 · 13 answers · asked by Blondie!! :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From reading your question, you seem to be more upset at your friends action of not waiting until the dust settled than at her actually dating your former boyfriend. I think that perhaps you perceive her actions as being disloyal, flavored with jealousy and that she is flaunting her conquest. Being friends had you shared your feelings about him with her before you ended the relationship?
However, consider that maybe she is just really happy with her new relationship and when she shares her feelings about it with you, her friend, she might be so wrapped up in her world that she doesn't realize how it makes you feel.
You felt that the young man wasn't right for you and therefore ended the relationship knowing all along that your friend had a serious crush on him....and yes it would have been nice if your girlfriend had talked to you about it before making her move, but that didn't happen and it hurt your feelings.
You have now learned something about yourself about your own personal ethics; how you would have and will handle similar situations in the future....now look at them, do they both seem happy to be together?
Some couples enhance each other and others bring out the worst, what didn't work for you may be just the right connection for your friend. It's the process of dating different people that helps us discover people with whom we truly want to spend time with; sharing good conversation, laughter, finding commonalities and building memories.
Friends are family that you choose for yourself and a lifelong friendship is very special. If your friend is someone that you want to maintain a relationship with, then you need to talk and share your feelings with her, keeping in mind she may not have realized how her actions affected you or she may even disagree. Communication is the most important ingredient in any relationship.
Life is full of meetings and partings, this is the process that we all go through to discover who we are, what we like and are looking for. As we get older we hope that we've learned lessons along the way and are able to pick and choose a little more selectively our friends, who we choose to date and how to end a relationship tactfully and on a positive note. This comes with practice and one major benefit is that we also discover things about ourselves along the way.
2007-03-25 08:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by dryad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply, this girl is NOT your friend. You don't have to let her know this or how you feel about anything. What you now know is that she cannot be trusted. Trust is the foundation to any relationship. Obviously there is none here and especially not loyalty either. I will tell you that growing up in a family more so female dominated with 10 aunts and 15 female cousins...women can be underhanded and venomous...don't be so easy to call someone a friend. Friends don't do these things. Do not be mad but take it as a lesson learned...She isn't worth your energy and neither is he. :)
2007-03-25 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by MockingBird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, shes not much of a friend for asking him the day you dump him. Did he say yes! Now thats an asshole for you, but a man nonetheless. So if i were you i wouldnt let either of them affect you, from what it sounds like they dont appreciate you or care about your feelings.
2007-03-25 08:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by sparkle_babi86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya girl, you should be a little upset with her, TRUE FRIENDS wouldn't do that , so whenever u start having feelings for someone else or think someone is cute, I wouldnt tell that friend of yours cause she just might go after him !!!! not cool
2007-03-25 08:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There is an unspoken waiting period that friends have before they consider dating a friend's ex. Usually, it's a couple of months and she would let you know before proceeding.
2007-03-25 08:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you dumped him he fair game! If you think you should be mad then Y would you break up with him in the first place?
2007-03-25 08:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be mad. just be happy that your friend is happy.inner peace will be yours if you create peace on the out side
2007-03-25 08:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Douglas M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who does that is not your real friend!!!! Trust me!!! I think you need to better chose your friend. You just dont date your friend's ex, you just dont!!!!!
2007-03-25 08:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Juan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get slutty for the guy, turn him on, then show off in front of youre "friend"
2007-03-25 08:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, and look for someone else.
And find new gfs too.
2007-03-25 08:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋