my boyfreind is scare to lrt me know how he feels about me.plus he wants me but scare to let them show what can i do to help him
2007-03-25 07:55:09 · 10 answers · asked by Denise M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he already has opened up , but you just aren't satisfied with what he had to offer, and are still expecting more! Perhaps what you have seen is what you are going to get. Men are not like women, and we don't appreciate women trying to pry our feelings out of us. A man likes to show his feelings on his own terms, otherwise it is not natural, and probably not genuine if he simply tells you what he thinks you want to hear!
Besides a level of maturity, a man's personal history of how he was brought up has much to do with how he opens, or doesn't open up to the opposite sex. I would suggest you find out in a not so obvious way, about his relationship with his parents, and if he was brought up in an environment of openness or not. If not, then I would suggest that your attempts to get him to express himself in a way that is uncomfortable for him might cause problems in your relationship. Of course if he doesn't express to you the feelings that you are looking for, then you already may have a problem! You may not like what you find out, but it is better to know now than later, were you to consider marriage with him. Don't try to fix him, he is not broke, just at a different level or frame of mind than you are. Good luck!
2007-03-25 08:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should try to get him to open up to you WHY he is scared in the first place. I know i had a hard time opening up to my girlfriend for a while, and it was because of my last relationship i was so badly hurt. So expressing my feelings made me feel vulnerable. It could be something different for him, but first try to get him to tell you why he's scared, then go from there.
2007-03-25 14:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by steve m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, particularly men, aren't comfortable 'sharing their feelings'. It's just the nature of some people to not have long mushy talks about a relationship or verbalize their feelings, at all.
But, he is undoubtably sharing his feelings in his own unique way, even if it's not the way that YOU share feelings. You just need to learn how to spot them.
Good luck :)
2007-03-25 15:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by lola_falula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. When he is ready he will tell you. Continue to be a great girlfriend by being supportive. The question is kind of weird because if he's your boyfriend he 's supposed to put his feelings on the table in order to have you as a girlfriend.
2007-03-25 15:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use humor. That will relax him. The opposite of serious ya know... Don't be too patient. He knows you want to know...if he chooses to "sit" on the info, then you are letting him be relationship lazy. You must have more value than that.
2007-03-25 15:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Andy man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him time sweety! He'll do it on his own when he is ready.... Or you could break up with him and force him tto tell you.
2007-03-25 14:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by alyson1hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long youve been dating. but it will happen sooner or later you just cant push it.
2007-03-25 14:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE A BAD CASE OF SHYNESS, START FLIRTING WITH HIM , SAY HEY CUTIE , YOU GONNA COME OUT OF THAT SHELL
2007-03-25 14:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by BigCat4LiLMissKittyPurrrrrrrrrrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try asking him why he is insecure about his feelings about you
2007-03-25 15:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you love him and see what he says.
2007-03-25 14:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by soccer allie <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋