Over the years, I have found that when I have given gifts for new homes, new babies, weddings, etc I have not received a thank you at all. Not a card, not a call, sometimes not even a comment. I am starting to become reluctant to attend any event regardless of who the invite comes from. Comments??
2007-03-25 07:53:07 · 7 answers · asked by short shrimp 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Common sense seems to be becomming less common every day. Mostly it's just people being lazy. But isn't giving a reward in itself? I love giving for giving's sakewhen I can afford it. Don't give up on doing what is proper. Live by example and maybe more people will catch on.
2007-03-25 08:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by super_deformed_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that too... I am wondering if maybe I notice this because I am getting older or because I live in the city =) I think people should learn the words "consideration" and "manner" all over again. Several times, at work or in a mall, when I open the door and about 3-4 four people on the other side of the door (even men) would just go ahead of me, as if my job description is to open the door for them. No thank you or even a smile, just walked right through the door that I opened. And I am not saying it's about equality between men and women - I think it's just plain good manners and consideration. Also, people walking on a small sidewalk, between three or more people walking side by side, a person walking on the opposite direction would have to give way to these people walking side by side occupying the whole sidewalk... can't they figure out to give way to the one person?
2007-03-25 19:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Elgy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely. People seem to have a sense of entitlement to receive gifts for their major life events, but lack the ability to be grateful for the generosity bestowed upon them.
You have no obligation to give gifts to ungrateful people. I have chosen to donate to charity instead on many of these occasions, as a result of the behavior you described. At least I know the charity appreciates the gift.
2007-03-25 15:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are getting like that these days. It's sad, really. When I get married I plan on making sure to write down every single card, gift, and guest at my wedding and send everyone a thank you card or give them a call saying how much I appreciated them.
2007-03-25 14:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people these days do not grow up with proper etiquette. It's not that they don't appreciate your gift, it's just that they don't know thank yous are even needed.
2007-03-25 15:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Answer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i completely agree. even the basic things arent done anymore. thats why in raising my boys im trying to teach them you say please and thank you for everything and im trying to show them they should open doors for girls.
2007-03-25 15:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by hello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed this too.
2007-03-25 21:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋