My brother and sister-in-law are part of my wedding party. I would like to present them with a special gift. They lost a child last year after a long struggle (he was a premie), they showed tremendous courage through it all. I would like to honor that somehow. Any suggestions??
2007-03-25 07:52:38 · 9 answers · asked by KCB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I understand what you want to do, and that's nice, but do you think that bringing up memories of what they've been through might make them sad all over again, or worse, embarrass them? Perhaps you can get them a gift to honor your love for each other, and to show them that you're always going to be there for them, just as I am sure they are there for you, wihtout bringing up the fact that they lost a child. Focus on their future, and not their past.
2007-03-25 07:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by qtpie831 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion has always been that people should not mix other events in with their wedding. It is very nice that you want to honor your brother and sister in law in some way, but please not at your wedding. They would probably not want your wedding, and their participation as members of the wedding party, turned into a time of mourning for them. It is your wedding, not a town meeting or a memorial service.
Do honor them if you wish, but not as part of your wedding.
2007-03-25 08:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having lost a child and lived through the situation and all the grief, disbelief, etc. Please do not bring this subject up. They are still dealing with this sensitive matter and it takes a lot longer than you can imagine. They have learned to deal with it yet the process is still ongoing.
If you want to get them a special gift because you appreciate them and their participation in your upcoming event, then please do so, but, leave them to deal with their grief.
There will come a time when they may want to talk and share their feelings in full detail, but, let them approach you and just be there for them.
2007-03-25 08:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be both, you should feel honored you were asked but I can see how it would become a bit irritating, because you're right, its not just about wearing a dress and walking down the aisle. But, I would just take the responsibilities with a smile because its "her" big day, and if you being in it makes it more enjoyable for her then you should be in it.
2016-03-29 04:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you would just each of them a regular gift for being part of the wedding party.
For their loss, that's something you need to deal with personally, totally away from the wedding.
2007-03-25 08:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are lighting "memorial candles" to honor those who we wish could be there with us, but can't. That might be something to look into. That way no one gets hit over the head with the fact you lost your nephew, but the honor is still there.
2007-03-25 09:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by jmya1030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them a gift certificate to a bed and breakfast and write something nice in the card.
2007-03-25 07:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by PJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a bench in a local park with a plaque on it with their names on it.
Or have a tree planted in memory of the baby.
2007-03-25 07:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some very nice, they deserve it
2007-03-29 00:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by guilototo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋