Please please help. I love my boyfriend very much but I am loosing him in front of my eyes. He has been stressed out about his job, gettting constantly rejected at his interviews. I have become needy and I blamed him that he does not care and he got upset. He told me that he needs time for himself but i was not able to give it to him properly. I asked him if he is avoiding me and he said he is not sure he wants to continue our relationship, he says he is not happy. he says he needs time but he thinks he will leave. He said he will call me during hte week and now he wants to be left alone. Please help me what should I do? How can I save this? What are the right htings to say to him? I love him more than anything.
2007-03-25 07:50:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly you respect his wishes and give him the space he asks for. this should pay off for you to. he mite realise he does want you after all. stop with the needy. its his time now and he needed you. and you where a bit selfish. contact him one last time telling him you'll respect his wishes and that you love him. then leave him alone. you cant force someone to be with you. BACK RIGHT OFF. cant stress that enough. it'll be hard but its what you need to do.
2007-03-25 07:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you could start off by saying that you are there for him and you're sorry for not understanding and leave it at that. In love the only thing we can do is give our best effort and just hope that the other person will do the same. However at the end of the day if something is meant it will be. The only thing ur doing is causing yourself more pain. He has told you that he wasnt sure if you all should continue, so give him his space. Remember guys know what they want and if its you then he will tell you but he is truly telling you alot right now. Things to do instead of thinking of him. Answer questions from other people and go out and treat urself to a movie or driving or shopping, go buy new music. :)
2007-03-25 15:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by MockingBird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you realise hes under alot of pressure at the moment, tell him how much you care for him, that your there for him and give him space! Even if he suggests you both take a break so he can have some time to sort himself out. Don't get needy just give him space and if its meant to be then he'll come crawling back :)
Good luck
2007-03-25 15:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by kaykay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no right thing to say here honey! i think actions would speak louder then words right now! give him the space that hes asking for! he thinks hes unhappy with the realtionship but hes not hes just passing his depression and disappointment from his lack of work on to his realtionship but he wont realise that hes doing this!
im glad you can see that your being needy if you know your doing it try and stop! your bf loves you but he right now hes only got himself to think of to get his life back to normal to beable to put you first again! try giving him space and support dont add more stress on to him! and when you do see him dont ask whats happeneing between you both try make him forget about his problem by not talking about work, jobs and your relationship! try speaking about something he likes that brings him joy!
and if the bad does happen and he does leave just remeber that if he cant give you what you need then theres little point no matter who how much you love him!
i hope it works out for you toots xxxxxxx
2007-03-25 15:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you he needs space. That is the only way you will keep him right now. he needs to sort things out. Ask him to meet with you at least once a week "to talk" or go out (It can be a walk or a simple dinner or even at your house). He needs space but you need to keep the lines of comunication open. Tell him you love him and will be there for him too,
Remember too, sometimes abscense makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-03-25 14:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by reneem1954_2000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you but just needs time to think then let him think dont bother him the more you bug the more he may turn away, he'll let you know what the deal is soon enough if you really love him then wait for him let him know that you are there for him and that you love him very much. remember the old saying" if you love something set it free if itcomes back its yours, if it doesnt it never really was" or something like that,
2007-03-25 15:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is his call give him a little time and then call and say your sorry for the pressure you put on him and that you will be there for him and ask if theres anything you can do to help but dont push or hell run just try and talk and take it slow
2007-03-25 14:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is mostly angry about was you birding him with your problems when he was stressed out with his job or finding a job,there is nothing you can do to save this relationship, its not you its him,he is stressed out and needs time to think about what he wants , sorry to say but you have to be ready because may be what he wants is not you, you shouldn't say anything to him until he is ready cause right now your relationship is in his hands
2007-03-25 15:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by LiL_mZ_Sa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should try to spice up the relationship a bit not to much but send him txts maybi like i love you but dont go over the top he needs his space and that has to be respected
2007-03-25 15:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by ciaran e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my sounds familiar!! You need to give him this time i guess easier said than done i know...been there done that. I hope you get some good advice.... you will do what you think anyhow whther right or wrong.
Good luck babe, stay stong. x
2007-03-25 14:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋