i can not stand him at all! i hate him ! when my dad left when i was bout 2 years old. i would have never thouhgt that my mom would get married to a dude that i didnt even know! then they had a child together! great ! now my stepdad like tells on me like constantly! if i pee wrong he would tell my mom! but i have a question do you think its right for a stepdad to beat a child thats not his with a belt? i cant stand him! im try to avoid him so much! but its like he is always here! he has cussed me out like 3 times becuase my mom told me to ask him for money! him and my mom dont talk for like a week then you know she goes back to him! i recently got in trouble and i brought up the way he has cussed me out and my mom would take his side and tell me to forgive but im not becuase the 3rd time he did it that was his last straw! i dont know what to do i dont want to live in that same house as him!
2007-03-25 07:16:10 · 19 answers · asked by feelfree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dnt like him!
2007-03-25 13:49:26 · update #1
I can see you are wanting to move out as soon as you can - I suggest you get some part time work now and learn how to cook, clean, budget and take responsibility for your actions. Blaming other people will be your downfall in life if you continue the way you are.
Get ready mate the big bad world is on your doorstep and you're not ready yet!!
When you flee him as soon as you are legally able to, Be Prepared cause it ain't easy in the adult world.
2007-03-27 00:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a horrible stepdad too. He would drink and beat me and curse at me all the time. At 15--I broke down at school crying with a black eye and bruises from the day before. THe school had a soical worker come and interview me and Imoved into a foster home that day. Foster homes are not perfect by any means but it sure was a lot better than my home. I never went back home. My mother took his side too--he finally left her and married several more times. My mother and I have never been close since I left home--she had always takens his side--I have a brother that left home too. I am 59 now and looking back--I would have gone to the school counselor a lot sooner had I known that was an option. No one should have to live in fear of belt beatings--you need to make a plan for your life and get some help and get out of the situation.
I was able to forgive my mother but always had a fear that that wicked man would show up in my life again. He died about 10 years ago and I felt such a sense of relief. You need to watch out for yourself as the adults who are supposed to be responsible for you are not doing a good job. I encourage you to tell someone who can help you.
2007-04-02 03:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy or a girl, and how old?
I'm a guy. I did not like my Dad. He was brutal!
I packed the little stuff I had, moved out when he was gone, rented a small trailer (rent free for doing Trailer Park chores) and I was 15 1/2. I quit High School. And got a full time job @ $1.25 (US) per hour.
Never moved back in. But I loved my Mom and called her frequently.
I had to grew up quick and realized that I was really a pain in the neck when I lived there. In hindsight, it was me, because of my immaturity that caused the friction.
I reconciled with my Dad before I joined the Service when I was 20.
I am not defending the actions of your Step Dad. But I wonder if you can defend your actions...I couldn't when I was 15!
Take care,
Bob P.
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Your question brought me back to a lot of memories.
I got my HS Diploma while in the Service.
After Service, I graduated from a California University.
I have two Daughters, both College Graduates. One was a tyrant when she was twelve ( a Pain) but grew out of that stage when she was 17.
I love them.. but more important they are friends...and they love me.
I became self-employed as a Consulting Engineer.
I do have a "Happy Ending". But I'm not too sure what the outcome would have been if I didn't move out.
One thing that I never did was any kind of drugs. Hope you don't do that.
Both parents are gone. But I sure miss my Mom!
2007-04-02 04:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by bob P11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there are other ways of discipline a child without a belt .
You not liking your step father can be hard . Do you have other siblings , cousins or aunts , Uncles you could talk to that could help you to make them understand ?
You didn't mention your age . Had you've been older you could work more , and get your own place , its a start , or live with relation , talk to your mom about that . Sometimes families will take you in .
2007-04-01 14:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek family counseling first for me and my mother to speak freely and openly in front of the therapist so that my mother will be unable to over talk me so that I could get it all out. Then I would let my mother voice her opinion and then let the therapist be the voice, because there is no way that I would let a stepparent discipline my child and mistreat them in any kind of way. I guess it is
the parent who as some issues within themselves
especially when my parent doesn't correct me themselves. Talk about everything that the step parent does to you that your mother gave permission to do and let her know why you feel it is wrong. No mother should allow any weapons or yelling at their children.
2007-04-02 04:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by reddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so wrong of him to beat you, that's definitely cruel. If you think you can live on your own then leave, it'll only affect you not just physically but emotionally and psychologically. Once is enough but more than that that is too much. If you can't live on your own or support yourself then if abuses you again report him and make sure you have evidence! That will be a big help for you.
2007-04-02 00:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by gab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your Mom allowing him to treat you this way? Is she afraid of him? From now on when your Mom wants money, tell her to ask him for it. As soon as you get old enough, move away from that house. Do you have Grandparents or kinfolk you can move in with? I wish you the best and if it gets too bad, tell a teacher or another Adult. He should not be allowed to abuse you.
2007-04-02 00:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not right to beat any one with a belt or any object! Sounds like both you and your Mom need to seek help and get away from this man. Sounds like there is abuse occurring.
Talk to other family and friends, search for local help, in your community. Counselors or anyone who can help get your lives in order. It doesn't sound safe to me. Good Luck!
2007-04-02 07:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by not perfect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your aunt, uncle, or grandparents. Do u hv an older cousin? Talk to a school councillor. Be VERY truthful. Do not make things up to support your story. Get some help for yourself. You do not want to make the same mistakes your mom did.
2007-04-01 10:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by front door 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh you poor thing! Technically, you can report him to the social services or w/e you guys have in America ((I'm from England)). Just talk it over with your mom, or if you don't want to talk; write a letter and leave it somewhere she will find it. Good luck and I hope this helps x
2007-04-02 01:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by chaseandzoaremeant2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋