I dumped him for a guy I'm with now but the relationship is an absolute hell (not just recently!) and I want my ex back. Last year, when we had a re-union from university, we were the last 2 people who stayed the last day and I had a great time. It was like going years back in time, he hasn't changed but said that I have, for the better and we got on so well, best day I had in ages. I really really want him back, how do I approach him? Should I approach him? I haven't seen him since then because we live quite far from each other but think about him every day. I don't even know if he'd take me back but shall I ask?
2007-03-25 07:12:22 · 26 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats a long time to still be thinking about someone. If neither of you are married i would go for it!
2007-03-25 07:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Joe W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/MFiNQ
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 12:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by olivarez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male aged 50.Yes you should write to him or call him and tell him that you made a big mistake and you should never have left him.Tell him that you have both grown up a lot since you split and ask him if he feels that you two can get back together again,be ready for him to say no that way you won't get hurt,who knows he may say yes and that will be a bonus.If he does say no that does not mean he may change his mind in a few days when it sinks in,make sure you give him your number but don't come across too desperate just keep it friendly.Good luck
2007-03-25 14:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by andrew h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your current boyf first.. If its not working then end it and tell this guy how you feel. You never know. He could also have made you realise how unhappy you are in your current relationship so if I were you sit down and really think about this. Are you wanting your ex back because you are unhappy or is it really true love? What ever you do good luck but dont cheat.
2007-03-25 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me....i would approach the situation in the now as opposed to things from the past...there is no sense is talking about what could have been, should have been...it just hurts to talk about painful memories when there really is no need to....if you feel that you do need to bring things up from the past such as an apology for hurting him..then so be it....but i would approach the situation brand new...a chance for new friendships, new jokes, new memories, and possibly another chance.....life is short....take chances but dont live in the past.....and if you are hurting about your relationship with him...try and understand this saying...Just move on, its alot easier than sticking around....hope i helped..take care and good luck
2007-03-25 07:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a girlfriend himself???No i don't think you should approach him. How do you know he would be interested anyway? You dumped him remember! You got on well because your existing relationship is not all you hoped it would be. Grass looks greener again from your rose tinted specks.
He is part of your past. If you are not happy in this relationship then you need to end it.
2007-03-25 07:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that you should even if you live far away find out where he lives and go to his house and say that you still have feelings for him and that you love him . He'll either think that its romantic that you went that far to say that you love him and he will know that you aren't going to break up with him for another guy b/c you traveled that far just to see him or he will think that you follow him home every night and think that your like a stoker but he will probably be blinded by the fact that you came all that way for him.
2007-03-25 07:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by carlislebum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/MFiNQ
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-05-01 02:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should ask. there is nothing to lose. acep a *** hole bf. ask fiend or family if u have changed a bit. that may be the the reason that ur relationship isn't working right now. if u talk 1 on 1 with ur current bf then mabie u will solve the problem and u will find out how great he is and 4get all about ur ex! goodluck =)
2007-03-25 07:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by jessi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NEVER GO BACKWARDS!! He is going to be a rebound for your relationship now. If you and ur current bf aren't getn along then let it go, but don't go back to ur ex. Ur ex has grown or not grown in 6 years and both of you have changed. Now if you just wanna jump off with them then that's a different story, but don't look to get back into things the way they were.
2007-03-25 07:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Chen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before approaching your ex, make sure you're ready to be with him ... and since you "dumped" him for someone else, before revealing to him that you still love him and that you want to reconcile, apologize.
You SHOULD let your ex-boyfriend know how you feel. Have you seen Dido's "White Flag" video? If not, find it on YouTube. If you have seen it, it illustrates why I say you should let your ex know how you feel.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 07:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by BlakWriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋