I liked a girl, she lead me on then said she didn't like me. We talked only for four months. After the fourth month I told a friend about how she told me about her falling in love with someone else and not me. She found out and never talked to me again. 11 months later, I've missed her and it seemed like she missed me too because she was always looking at me and sometimes she would say hi back to me. I thought maybe she'd talk to me since that was so long ago and we can be friends again. So I went to talk to her but she completely ignored me and I left her. Two days later (today) I looked at her page where she had changed her headline to simply "wondering why..." I think it may not be anything to do with me and it's not such a big deal or it could be about something else. If it has to do with me it's probably about why did I even try to talk to her. What could it mean if it does have to do with me?
2007-03-25 07:03:27 · 3 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, today I thought about it and I realized that in the last month of us talking, when she got angry at me, I had not done A THING to her. I was changing what she said I was doing wrong.
2007-03-25 07:04:53 · update #1
She changed her headline AFTER I tried to talk to her
2007-03-25 07:08:56 · update #2
Sorry to say that it probably doesn't have anything to do with you. Sounds like she is not interested in you. Not what you want to hear but that's how I read the situation you described.
2007-03-26 07:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you, or did you not tell a friend about the intimate details of her love life?
Did she, or did she not get angry with you when she learned of your breach of confidentiality?
Her "Wondering why.." headline has to do with ALL of the guys she has met in her dating life (not just you), and she is asking, "I'm wondering why is it that I continue to like guys who wind up hurting me in one way or another?"
Here's a lesson that should be permanently ingrained into your brain:
Women may forgive you for what you have done to them in the past, but they will NEVER forget about it, even if they live to be 100!
It seems to me that she may have forgiven you for what you did or did not do, but she is not interested in restarting your previous relationship with her.
Remember, with women, perception is EVERYTHING, so if she has a bad perception of you, you're essentially screwed, and there is not much that you can do to change it. If it changes at all, it will be because she does the changing, and not you.
Send her an email, and tell her that you are not the same guy that she knew 11 months ago, that you've changed, and that if she is interested in getting to know the "new you," that you'll be here waiting for her response.
If she doesn't respond within two weeks, then it is time to move on and never look back.
2007-03-26 14:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by DrRJP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be direct here. Either call her or ask her in person. You can just say how you want to still be friends (or something more if that is what you want). If she is someone who will always play games with you she is going to be difficult to have any real relationship with anyways. "Talking" for four months is actually a pretty long amount of time. I would think by this point she could know if she wanted to pursue a relationship or not. If she doesn't move on, you can find someone else, if she does, decide if you want to give it a shot.
2007-03-26 14:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Allison S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋