2007-03-25 07:02:30 · 20 answers · asked by Kelly K 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Probably a good spanking.
Thank you and good day.
2007-03-25 07:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
I think we're getting just a slice of the story here.
If this was a totally isolated incident, the consequence would be that I wouldn't be able to trust you. You'd have a baby-sitter when I'm not home and you'd be in school, extra curricular activities at school and church and that'd be the extent of your social life.
However, if I saw that your grades were slipping, your behavior was starting to go down the tubes and you were getting an attitude with me (is this sounding familiar???) and THEN you snuck out with a boy, I'd be looking at boarding schools.
You'd be off to boarding school for the remainder of the year and then we'd give being at home another shot. If it didn't work out, you'd finish high school at a boarding school and then you'd head to college or a job.
My job is to get my kids to 18 years old and to provide the BEST possible foundation for them that I can. If I'm not doing very well with it, then I need to hire some help.
2007-03-25 17:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I would have to say it's three wrongs
talk it over with her and you can decide with her the three punishments
my motto is: always keep the lines of comunacation open!
this is just the beginning of the teen years
at this point I would suggest you have to get a little tougher and always know what she is up to even if you have to snoop a little
reinforce to her that you are there for her even if it's something real bad... tell her that you will be the only one to be able to help her and that she has to be honest at all costs.
Also let her know how much worse it could have been
2007-03-25 15:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by leroux3s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would work on rebuilding trust with my 14 year old so that she could talk to me and understand that sneaking out is a foolish thing to do. She and I would spend EVERY saturday for 3 months together in my garden. She'd pull weeds, empty the waste bin, dig holes, and tote debris. She'd spend the rest of each weekend "bonding" with her loving mother by sharing her mums activities.(reading, writing, doing research, cooking, and shopping) And of course for at least 1 month there'd be no phone, TV or comp. She wouldn't go out, but could have friends over.
By the end of 3 months of this, she'd think twice before getting sneaky.
2007-03-25 14:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think this issue is about punishment.To me the issue would be trying to trust my daughter again.Once you lose trust it is hard to regain it.Your parents will be glad nothing serious happened to you.They will also find it difficult to accept this boy as someone you should be with. No amount of punishment will rebuild the trust, only time will do that.
2007-03-25 18:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it were me, you'd have a few bruises, you'd sleep in the garage next to my car, since you seem to like cars so much, and since the law says I have to feed my children you'd have green beans and water everyday. You'd have four minutes to take your shower every morning, you go to school, you come home and do your homework, but that's just what I would do. I don't have kids since I'm still in high school, so I dont't have to worry about such things.
2007-03-25 15:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by n.w. 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The 14 year old should be grounded and lose privileges until she earns them back by proving she can be trusted. Depending on the circumstances of the accident she may need to help pay for the damages (if she was driving or had any responsibility for the crash).
2007-03-25 14:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Starshine 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't smack a 14 y.o. but I'd sure ground his/her sorry butt and make his/her life miserable at home by taking away ALL of his/her favorite things like ipod, tv, cell, computer (unless for homework), you name it. I would make this kid earn it back with near perfect behavior. Some real butt kissing from the kid to prove he/she knows they REALLY blew it!
2007-03-25 15:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that were my kid, I'd ground her for a month. No going out, no internet (except for school stuff), limited phone use, it would be straight to school and back for that whole month!
2007-03-25 15:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Were you in the car with the boy? Were you driving? What had you been doing prior to the accident? Is this the first time? Whose car? Whose fault was the accident?
You would be grounded for at least nine weeks. No phone, no TV, no computer. Your entire time would be spent in your room except for meals with the family and enough time to bath/shower. You would also hand-write a 3000 word essay, double-spaced, explaining why you did what you did and why it will not happen again and why what you did was patently wrong.
2007-03-25 14:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Every child is different, you have got to find out what will "hit home". With my daughter it would be to take her cell phone away from her (especially in this case, no communication could prevent the sneaking out). But what is most important is that she understands how dangerous it is to be out at her age especially the fact that you dont know that she is even out. curfews are there for a reason so that you know something could be wrong and you can start looking for her before it is too late.
2007-03-25 14:17:15 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋