It was two friends birthdays in the same night.& I was with one since 7.30pm so I stayed in the pub with them. I told my friend to meet us there she wanted to go to a different pub but I said no as I didn't want to offend 13 people I was with since 7.30pm. My friend got thick & rang me at work the next day to say I didn't know how to be a friend after 14 years. I'm hurt I didn't need if after the break up with my fiancee & I had made her bridesmaid when we first got engaged. Am I a fool?
2007-03-25 07:02:30 · 7 answers · asked by sugarplum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They are just being childish they will get over it. Your friend is maybe a little bit hurt that you spent all your time with someone else, but remember you did try to comprise. Let them blow off a bit of steam, then talk like reasonable adults.
Don't worry mate X
2007-03-25 07:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Darkchild 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i can understand where both of you are coming from and it just seems so immature, surly if you had both been friends for 14 years you wont have these types of arguements and can actually talked about it. Why didnt you say to your friend we will stay at this pub for a whiile then go as you have been here since 7:30 pm and want to stay a bit longer and then say by to everyone. What has happend the way you have said it has offended her as she is being silly and thinking you didnt want to spend time with her. Even though it just needed a little explaining of how you ment it. Your not a fool she is for throughing a strop with you when I wouldnt of expected a friend to leave a party I would of stayed there with her till later when she was ready to leave. I think your better of without her she acting like a jealous friend, maybe you to dont get on like real friends should. So I would just leave it for now and let her get in touch with you. Shes te one who was in the wrong and if she isnt old enough to get over it then leave her be
2007-03-25 07:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. It can be awkward when you are invited to two birthdays and trying to please both people as you will end up not enjoying yourself at all trying to attend both. You tried to come to some solution and this didn't please her but really this is her problem. Send her a postscard if you want saying that she's a great friend and sorry for the upset. BUT really there's no need to go to any more trouble than that if she wishes to talk about it say that it's done now but next year you'll put her first and go to whatever venue etc.
2007-03-25 10:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by sare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I get the gist! I'm not sure what you're going on about the bridesmaid bit though, you make no sense - but otherwise, you were out with another friend (did your other friend know this? Are they friends with each other? Who are you the better friend with?) You offered to meet your friend in the pub you were in with your other friend - this is confusing - but your friend said no, and your were clearly not bothered enough to get off your bum and meet your friend somewhere else. So why the heck are you asking the question?
She's not talking to you, that's fair enough. Leave it. You've got your other friend who is obviously more important and the spurned friend now realises this!!!
2007-03-25 07:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You aren't the fool but your friend is.
You offered to meet her at that pub and she decided not to meet you there.
Tell her she is being childish and acting like the green eyed monster.
If she is a true friend she will contact you. Wait for her to contact you. It;s her in the wrong not you. As you said you don't need upsetting at the mo.
2007-03-25 07:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a fool. why cant she wait till another night for you and her to go out. is she always available when you need a friend . sounds like there is a bit of jealously on her part
2007-03-25 07:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by ginger74 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don,t worry if she is a good friend she will come around she should realise you don,t just drop every thing because she says jump and if she dosn,t you will survive you don,t need her friendship
2007-03-29 03:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋