Im a 14 year old girl and I have a boyfriend which is 17. He wants me to have sex with him but im worried 2 get pregnet at this age. I love him so much i don't want him to break up with me because i dont want to have sex with him. What should I do? Tell my parents?
2007-03-25 07:01:36 · 27 answers · asked by blond hottie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, if he truly cares for you, he will not pressure you into sex.
If he continues to pressure you after you tell him no, then he doesn't really have your best interests at heart, he is just trying to worry about his own pleasure. Don't worry about being with a guy like that.
I know you've probably heard this before, but you're only 14, have fun, be a kid, boys will come and go, and in all likelihood you will not be with this guy in a year from now. He wants pleasure, you want love, he's not worth your time. Just kick him to the curb and have fun that girls at your age should be having, hanging out with friends and talking about boys, not having sex with boys and having their children, because I guarentee, if you got pregnant, most likely that guy would be out of the picture very quickly.
2007-03-25 07:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by J.R. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have any doubt in your mind at all you should not have sex with him. Speaking as a mother of a 14 yr old daughter I think you are 2 young 2 have sex period. And yes I think if your parents are people u can talk to then definately discuss it with them. I am not stupid enough to believe that my daughter will be a virgin 4 ever but I dont think she is old enough or mature enough now to be having sex, but she knows when she thinks she is ready she knows she can come to me and discuss it. Think about this before you do it You say you love him so much and if he loves you in return then he will wait until u are ready.
2007-04-02 13:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by pickletbug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it would be a good idea to have sex for several reasons: a) you're still too young; b) you don't want to risk getting pregnant; c) it would be for the wrong reason--to try to keep him so he doesn't break up with you. If you don't feel you're ready, then don't do it. If he "loves" you, then he shouldn't pressure you to do anything you don't want to do.
He should be willing to wait until you're older, and you both truly love and respect each other. It will be so much more meaningful for you both when you do. Whereas, if he's only interested in you for sex, then he'll probably dump you either way--whether he has "had" you, or not.
Regarding your parents--that depends on the kind of relationship you have with them. If you and they have an open relationship, and you can discuss this subject with them, go right ahead.
2007-04-01 23:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your parents even know you are dating a 17 year old boy? Don't let him pressure you to do anything you don't want to do. That's good that you said no because you really don't want to become pregnant at 14. Guys hormones are ranging at his age and you have to put your foot down and tell him no to sex. If he continues to pressure you, you might have to break up with him. You might be upset that you guys broke up, but you will be happy that you saved your virginity for someone that you really loved, who respects your decision to wait, and that you are much much older when you decide to have sex. I hope my answer was helpful. Good luck.
2007-04-02 13:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look boo if u not ready thenm tell that man that u aint ready yet and if he cant respect that then u dont need him and yeal u love him or what not but that wont b tha first and last time u find love
now if u tell ur parents they gonna say no becasue its there job to but they might make u stop talking to him also
i think its about u b a big girl and handle ur business and let him know that ur age isnt the right one to b taking chances like that and bring up having a family and all to c where he stand
but on the other side if u chose to wear a condom
2007-04-01 23:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO ,Do Not Have Sex with him ! Stay a VIRGIN !.IT IS WORTH THE WAIT!
If he brakes up with you ,so be it ! You are 14 dating a 17 year old .I know it is only 3 years diff ,but you need to wait to date ,Wait till you are at lest 16 . You can hang out and be Just Friends with a guy , I have .If they want in your paints ,Just say ,NO!!! RESPECT YOUR SELF. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS.
I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS IN YOUR LIFE.
2007-04-02 13:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by needs answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, hon listen to me, because this is something that will be true for your entire life: A man that isn't willing to wait for you doesn't care about you. A man that loves you and values you will NEVER try to pressure you into anything you're not ready for.
Just tell him no. You don't need to explain yourself, you don't need to argue, you don't need to do anything else for him to "make up" for it. Just tell him no. You're not ready. No. And if that's a problem for him, well, you'll just have to see him around. But no. No. NO.
He'll might get mad, insult you, tell you to grown up, try to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him or threaten to go find someone else that will do it. He might even tell you he loves you and that this is how people express love. And if he does ANY of those things, you can know that you were RIGHT TO SAY NO. Because a good man will never do those things to you. A good man will never want to take something from you that you aren't ready and willing to give to him.
I know this is hard and that it feels terrible But you have no idea how much worse it feels to give your body to someone and have them turn their back on you after wards. And that's exactly what he'll do. Just say no, hon. It's your body and no one has rights to it but you.
You'll be okay, I promise. Be strong. Good luck.
2007-04-02 12:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are a very level headed young lady. You dont want to have sex! so stick to your guns girl, dont! If he really cares about you, he will wait until you are older, and ready to take the relationship to the next level, if he wont wait- ditch him, he is only after the one thing!
2007-04-02 14:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by June S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is having an affair is not like a hot soup that when u get burn from it u can drink water and cure it . so no repent.u r too young , don't think about sex at the early age make it precious.
2007-04-02 09:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by amwid-u:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex unless you feel you are ready for all the drama associated with it Safe sex? pregnancy? Talk with your teachers if you can't talk to your parents. Don't let someone blackmail you into doing something you don't feel ready for. Good luck.
2007-04-02 11:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by sheree_98133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋