2007-03-25 06:58:01 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
take her to a counslor fast the quicker she deels with this the easier it will be!
2007-03-25 07:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to find out to what extent she is using drugs. I've used A class drugs in the past and when I was 18. I'm not a bad person, I didn't need rehab or the police and I didn't become an addict of any kind - I experimented and grew out of it.
If she has taken E, dabbled in coke or speed then I would talk to her, talk to Frank (the helpline) first so you know your facts and that way you can inform her in an informed way about the dangers and reality rather than spouting 'Drugs are bad, just say no' becuase she knows now taking one pill or snorting one line doesn't kill you, it doesn't turn you into a crazed maniac so won't listen to you if thats what you tell her.
Don't lecture her as she will go out to defy you.
If on the other hand she is taking smack (herion) or crack then she will need help ASAP as they drugs so hook and kill very quickly.
What I'm trying to say is there are many different kinds of drugs and drug abuse all of which need to be approached differently.
www.talktofrank.com
2007-03-25 08:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the person who has told you this reliable is the first question you must ask yourself also which class A drug is she on? Have you asked her about it?
It must be an awful shock to you but this is going to seem harsh until your daughter is ready to get help there is nothing that you can do. All the guilty speeches in the world that you can put on her is not going to work. You are going to go through hell unless she seeks help now and how do I know this I have had 3 of my close family member's on Class A drugs for many a year and watched my mom go through hell. There are parent groups for people who have children on hard drugs go and talk to one of those but they will give you the answer that I am telling you and the horrible thing is you have to watch your child going through all the stages if she gets into it that much. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope she listens to someone.....
2007-03-28 11:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far more detail please... I mean real explicit spell it out details... whats taken, how often, family history the works
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The lifeline one should be best think they have a parents guide.
Look its not as simple as you make out.
In the papers now they are looking to rearrange drugs so Ecstasy and LSD are calss C, old cannibis C, Skunk class A or B.
alcohol increased to class A and tabbacco, and solvents
So what are we talking about ...?
Heroin, Crack, Methamphetamine? Those are all very serious.
Cocaine depends... it can be used sparingly and grown out of its depends how oftern (there you may want to point out its production is like the movie blood diamond) ie funds war.
If Ecstasy that pretty normal and whilst there is a raisk its minimal and it makes you hug others and be nice.
Main hazards are NEVER NEVER drink lots of water.... And give her lots of salty food and electroyte (ie dehydration sachets) mineral sacahets to balance chemiscal in blood to help prevent water poisioning (very nasty) and keep her cold...
Let me make this clear... on E the skimpier the better and safer as you can overheat.
Ie a little dope depends if skunk or not.
Poppers giver massive headaches.
Glue is the most dangerous and other solvents.
Practically everyone tries dope.
LSD and mushrroms its maninly not too big a deal if rare and no history or family history of psych problems...
But pick the wrong mushroom shes dead
As you can see things are complex... not simple like you think.
Never go wild if you think she has taken LSD or mushrooms as it can be very trumatic wait and be nice as pie for 12 hours
You can get e testing kits. Try www.accessallareas.org or the green political party ... Shows whats in them
And check ALL the links ALL the way though
2007-03-25 11:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter is an adult so there are limited things you can do. IF she is living in your house you can tell her that drugs are not allowed (especially if you are not using any illicit drugs yourself). You can suggest and go with her to counseling for drug abuse, such as one like AA has but for drug abuse.
Tough love is hard. You may have to do one of several things which could include not allowing her to live in your home unless "clean and sober" or involving the authorities who will be more interested in the pusher than the user.
But helping her to stop could save her life and some times that is a very hard road to walk. You may have to make her very angry with you to save her life.
2007-03-25 07:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I understand where you are at & even more because my son is in jail as we speak for drugs he has been sentence to a year in rehab. comes out of rehab.; 3 1/2 months at a half way house working also those 3 1/2 months then when he finally gets too come home he is on probabtion for 10 years has to summit for a drug test every week plus classses every week. Yes he had another charge or so with that but for the same thing almost it was drugs charges. My mom & dad enabled him till he finally broke them totally almost ; they bought him 8 cars gave money too him everyweek about $200.00 a week instead of him working I talked & talked till i was blue in the face too them not too do that because it was not helping him at all; my son is 25 years old . You need too get her help but of course too do it yourself it cost lots of money & it might work or may not just like my son after all of this I pray & hope he comes out with a better frame of mind & gets new friends because with out that he will probably be right back in but next time probably Prison ; & as a parent & my parents its hard very hard too watch hear & listen but we have too have that faith , hope & pray that he will be right when he comes out of all of this . It really depends on your daughter is she ready to admit she has a promblem ?? Your daughter is an adult also so it's not a lot you can do except talk too her or have her committed but that also depends on the state that you are in . Other than that I really don't know hun cause we tried everything & failed & so hes in jail going too rehab & so on hes up too him now . I 'm Sorry for your troubles & I wish you the best & Goodluck with all of this !!!!!!!!!!
I will pray for you & your daughter cause, I sure hope you & yours do not have too go thru the heart aches, hurts & everything the we have & that I know many other parents have went thru !!!
Good Luck !!! My Prayers are with you & yours !!
May GOD Bless You & Yours !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-25 09:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I can imagine what you are going through, been there myself, but I must say and don't take this to heart, it is not what you want it is up to your daughter what she wants, talking will not change her attitude to drugs, just tell her you know what she is taking and you will not accept this, but you still love her and you will be there for her, but you will not give her money for drugs and if she ends up stealing from you which is inevitable i can assure you you will then call the police and have her arrested, but at the end of the day prison is not the answer, your daughter has to want to give it UP by herself, I am sorry if you don't like my answer to your question but i feel this is the only way, and good luck, and please take care of your self and try to not worry over her.
2007-03-25 07:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her ASAP. Be open, supportive and direct.
Find out through gentle persistence and genuine interest what drives her to poison her body. Is it peer pressure, a need to escape, poor self-esteem? Once the two of you find the underlying issue, you can then work on it.
I don't think theres a quick fix, but get as involved as you can.
Expect resistance.
If the drug abuse continues or worsens, get her to counselling.
2007-03-25 08:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can do is talk to her, the rest is up to her. Your daughter is an adult and even if she was a bit younger unless the person addicted is willing to go the distance and want to stop, no one can do anything about it. This is one of those personnal things that must come from within a person.
2007-03-25 07:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tough love the hardest decision you'll ever make. Enroll your daughter into a treatment facility don't give her any choice in the matter. I think she will realize how awful things are and want help. Find a facility with family sessions that way you can know what's going on and be supportive.This is where the real healing will begin for your daughter and save her life.
2007-03-25 07:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Aphreakywuman 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
nice. i'd put a lock on her door n make sure she wasn't addicted to the drug by kepping her in the house for at least a week. then if it turns out she is, get the doc. doc can't go 2 the police abt it....just bare in mind ur daughter will say, 'its ok mum, im fine, just let me out n gimme a hug' dnt fall 4 it, i had 2 get me ex off coke n he dun that LOADS...luckly dnt fall 4 it. when u say no u'll c why ur lucky not 2 fall 4 it.
2007-03-25 12:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋