What does she want?

Question

Im currently on exchange in europe and met a really good girl she is however one year older than me, we talked about hookin up havin a relationship etc etc and she says its better to just be friends but she still expects things of me ( kissing) etc but last week she said just to be friends and its hard for her to say that and how much she likes me, but just the other night she hooks up with some other guy. i know she likes me and even has my pictures on her background of her handy. is she just using me or what? i really can t tell the last week has been crazy for me do i really need this?

Answer 1

if she says she likes you but just wants to be friends and hooks up with another guy, you should treat her words and actions at face value. hanging on waiting because you assume she cant really express that she likes you is a recipe for dissappointment for you. clearly if she has said she just wants to be friends and has hooked up with someone else with you knowing it than she really does just want to be friends.

Answer 2

That must be a european thing. Your best bet here is just to step up, stop giving in, and tell her flat out what you expect from what ever type of relationship you have and then what type you want. But STOP going along with whatever she wants, it is getting you no where. Man up, and tell her what YOU expect. And dont settle for any less. Because she already hooked up with another guy you say? Thats pretty much a big fat red flag here in America.

Answer 3

It doesn't sound like she's ready to make a commitment to 1 guy yet. Enjoy your friendship and don't rush her into anything. You don't want to get serious with someone whose not ready to do the same. Go out with other girls. Kissing is fine but don't go too far. Sometimes it's difficult to stop at kissing and petting but you need to show her respect and don't go further. If she's wanting to have sex without a relationship.........you need to decide if that's really the kind of girl you want to be involved with anyway. If she's easy.......how many other guys has she been easy with? Don't have sex with someone you don't want to share a child or a disease with. Good luck

Answer 4

she doesnt like you. this good girl isnt so nice. she probably cares about you and maybe likes you as a friend. but she is using you. u deserve someone who wants just you not u and then another guy. she says shes having trouble tellin you how she feels about you. its not that, she's not tellin you anything to keep you around her. its really shallow. she cant tell u how she feels and yet she hooks up with others? no way is that love. its cruel. careful older girls usally use younger ones for the attention. not always on purpose. so my advise leave her alone.

Answer 5

Tell her no kissing if you're friends. Lay down the rules. If she wants to kiss you she can't go with other guys. She will appreciate you standing up for your self. Let her know she can't mess you about.

She possibly doesn't know what she wants. She maybe feels like you are a potential long term relationship and that could scare her.

Answer 6

she might actually like you but doesn't want things to get complicated later you know?.. but i think you should talk to her again.. tell her to be straight with you.. because if she doesn't feel what you feel then she should tell you so you could move on... age doesn't matter too much especially that the difference between you two isn't big. best of luck

Answer 7

she might be afraid of getting attached to you, because you wont be in europe forever. I would tell her to live in the moment, and not worry about the future, tell her she is missing out of she doesnt give you a chance...best of luck

Answer 8

Maybe she loves you and wants to make reaching her harder.maybe she went out with that guy to make you jealouse.But you can't be sure.