I met this man last August and within a month we were living together. Not only did we see each other at home, but we also attended the same prorgam at the same school. There is 9 years between us. Great sex, but also lots of fights. In January, I told him that I loved him and moved out in order to make things work better. We made future plans after school. Within six weeks, I was back at our place becuase I was missing him. At the end of February, things went bad, we had a bad fight and I left. I didn't talk to him for 3 weeks. Now talking to him, he says that he doesn't want a relationship anymore. I still see him in class and miss him terribly. How on earth does someone move on from this? I want him back very much and I have cried everyday for a week now. I know I can date other people. I now sit in my apartment alone as he has moved out. I love him dearly and spent most of the last six months with him day and night.
2007-03-25 06:43:41 · 12 answers · asked by easterner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met this man last August and within a month we were living together. Not only did we see each other at home, but we also attended the same prorgam at the same school. There is 9 years between us. Great sex, but also lots of fights. In January, I told him that I loved him and moved out in order to make things work better. Not fighting then. We made future plans after school. Within six weeks, I was back at our place becuase I was missing him. At the end of February, things went bad, we had a bad fight and I left. I didn't talk to him for 3 weeks. Now talking to him, he says that he doesn't want a relationship anymore. I still see him in class and miss him terribly. How on earth does someone move on from this? I want him back very much and I have cried everyday for a week now. I know I can date other people. I love him dearly and spent most of the last six months with him day and night. I told him that I love him and he has said no. But my heart doesn't want to let go at all.
2007-03-25 07:08:44 · update #1
Please learn from this experience. You must no someone really well to play house. I think that sex was the calling card in this relationship. After the sex, & passion was wearing thin, thats when things cooled down. You must get out in circulation again. This time, don't be in a hurry for shacking-up. Be your own boss, and do as you please. Make sure that you are not confused between love and lust...
2007-04-02 02:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you will read what you just told us you will see the problem clearly. first of all when you two would have the fights why didn't you sit down and dicuss the reason for the fighting? and try to work through them? you two were not open with each other. the age dosen't matter at all in a relationship. some people can be older and act childish. the reason he is gone now is because you two had fights and you left him two times. im sure he is affraid if he takes you back that you will just leave him again.when someone love's another and they leave them especially two or more times then they build up a wall in the heart so they don't get hurt any more.think about this relationship and the mistakes so when you get involved with another guy you will not make the same mistakes and please allways be open and honest in a relationship.thats really the bond that holds a relationship together and also makes the love so much stronger. good luck
2007-04-02 03:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts bad. You dont know what you have until you have lost it. But everyone deserves a second chance. If you feel this bad only you can make yourself feel better. Go and see him, tell him how you feel. Be prepared as he might not feel the same way. If he doesnt then please trust me when I say time is a healer and you will meet someone who was meant for you. Everything happens for a reason. I know this because I have just ended it with my partner of 7 years who I love so much. It just wasnt working and now I am in pain. I keep myself busy and I do the things that make me smile. You will come out of this stronger. You will look back at this and think what was the fuss about! However for know show him that you are a strong and Independant woman and this is very attractive to men and to him. Good luck mate.
2007-03-25 06:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not willing to make things work then he didnt love you. So hang out with your friends more (they are a huge support group plus they wont leave you) You'll find a guy who will be everything and more but it may take time so you have to be patient and you dont have to have a boyfriend right now take some time off and just relax. it's okay to cry over a lost relationship but dont let it rule your life. In time you'll be free to have other relationships. I wish you good luck and i hope you find the right guy for you!
2007-03-25 06:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen way too quickly between you two. Sadly, maybe you were more serious about him then he was about you. Yes, that happens unfortunately and its a huge learning experience. I think you should take time to reflect on everything in your life up to this point. Concentrate on your education because that will benefit you more then your pervious relationship.
It will take time but you will heal and find someone more deserving your love and devotion.
2007-03-25 06:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your calamity. You know, maybe it was for the best. Afterall, if you state you relationship contained fights, then it wasn't meant to be. I am sure, you are a good girl. But, maybe it was not meant to be. Take it one day at a time, if you feel he's the one, then more power to you. But, seriously, do some soul searching. Only you for sure will know. Good luck!
2007-03-25 06:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by facetofacerules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm, well this sounds very much to me that you were in lust with one another, not in love! I am so sorry you find it so hard to get over this, but you must try to move on for your own peace of mind, somewhere out there is the right one for you, doesn"t sound as if this one was that one. Look forward, and keep your chin up.
2007-04-02 06:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by June S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. You have to vent out but the most important thing is to decide that you want to move on.Ask help from family & friends and pre-occupy with something you love to do, start a blog or something.
http://lanispage.blogspot.com/
2007-03-25 06:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, what were you fighting about and from experience i did the same thing you only I am a guy. and we have fought and I have left countless times ( she is love with me) my mind says stay my heart says run. in the long run you will regret trying to hold on as the saying goes if u love something set it free........
if it is meant to be he will persue you
2007-03-25 06:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by lorain182003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mr right will never come if mr wrong is nearby - let him go honey cause he is just not that into you. if you need to talk to a professional to help you get over him
2007-04-02 02:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋