I've been dating this 30 year-old guy for almost a year now...and I really love and care about him. Throughout our relationship he's been going through a mid-life crisis and is extremely emotional. About six months into our relationship, he said he couldn't be with me because he needed time to get himself together. At first, I was hurt but I gave him a chance and stood by his side. We eventually worked things out and got back together. About a week ago, our relationship was having some problems and we were arguing a lot. He again, told me he needed time to get himself together. When he told me this, I was so hurt! Why does he keep needing breaks? So over the past week, I feel like I'm chasing him! He barely calls me or wants to see me. I would think he would want my support or be scared to lose me! So, after three days of making myself look like a fool, I told him off and announced that I want him out of my life. He hasn't contacted me in 3 weeks. Was I wrong?
2007-03-25 06:39:38 · 5 answers · asked by justasking 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were right! Good for you. Not an easy thing to do, but he is obviously repeating the same pattern and unless he wants to change it by getting help, it will always be the same thing over and over. You deserve better than that and although you are hurting, you already see the pattern that both of you have fallen in to. You chose to stop that pattern. You are very wise. All the best!
2007-03-25 06:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by 1dayatatime 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be REALLY young! A 30 year old is NOT going through a mid life crisis. Give me a break.
Anyway, it sounds like maybe he didn't want to be with you anymore and didn't know how to tell you. You made it easier for him by telling him off. But, I could be completely wrong...
2007-03-25 06:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and move on...If he really cares for you.he should calls you by now...There is someone out there for you,who will make you happy...
2007-03-25 06:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing . stay Strong and go on with your life .
2007-03-25 06:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
way to go, you made the right decison, or did you, I can see that you still have feelings for him, hmm.. do you? or do you not? you know what you have to do? it's all up to you
2007-03-25 06:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋