First time sex?

Question

me and my bf are both 16
and are ready to have sex for the first time,
i am worreid as to how much it wil hurt,
and am worried about condoms splitting.
How should i bring it up?
and what do i do if it hurts?
should we carry on, or stop?

please help me!

thankyou

Answer 1

Use plenty of vaginal gel.. Have sex in your safe period. It might sting a little depending on the toughness of your hymen. Just relax and make sure you have loads of foreplay. It will be better second time round. Happy orgasms.

Answer 2

first time sex is never as good as any of your peers make out or how it looks in the movies. Just because your sixteen doesnt mean you have to have sex.
Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and not being pressured into it from your b.f, if he really likes you he will wait until you are ready. or just cause all your mates say they are sexually active doesnt mean they are and just think it sounds cool if they say they are, most will be lying.
Your a sensible lass taking into account contrapception worries. I would say talk to your gp as may want to go on the pill as well as using condoms, just in case a condom does spilt. And even if you are on the pill still use protection as it prevents stds which god forbid you dont want.
As for hurting it depends on many things, it may be uncomfortable if it hurts stop, dont carry on for the sake of it as you will alsways assocaite sex with pain and when you try again you will just be tense awaiting the pain you have already assocaited with sexual intercourse.
Plenty of foreplay and make sure your relaxed if your tense your vagina will just clam up making it harder for him to enter you. Candles and insence sticks if your into that , somewhere private so you dont have to worry about people either hearing or walking in on you.
Remember only have intercourse if YOU feel ready, never feel presured or forced and always use A CONDOM!

Note to me mother if your reading this then sorry im not as inocent as you think but i am 27!!!!lol

Answer 3

it can hurt a little and may cause you to bleed small amounts to,the second time is always the best as you will both no what to expect and neither will be embarresed as you will be the first time round,make sure you are ready for it and its how you want it to be,a nice atmosphere not a bike shed or field,as for the condom splitting this could happen but better if you are on the pill also.have fun and try not to worry just relax be better and nicer..xx

Answer 4

Everybody has to do it a first time! The answer is to be somewhere very safe, away from everybody. A hotel perhaps. Then take your time and enjoy. Don't rush things. Plenty of what is called foreplay - cuddling touching kissing (all over if you like!) This gets you both ready and then tell him to be gentle! All should go ok. If not happy, leave till next time, you have plenty of it. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you cant talk about sex then you should really ask yourself if you are old enough to have it. It does hurt the first few times, but not that much, you shouldnt worry about that. Just make sure you are having sex for the right reasons.

Answer 6

If you are worried about how to "bring it up," then you and your bf are not comfortable around each other. Both of you need to understand and respect each other, and definately be scared to think of what the other person thinks.

Answer 7

I dont think your ready to have sex if your worried about all of those things that can happen. Sex is supposed to be good and right and when your really ready and smart enough those things wont matter.

Answer 8

Most women are naturally a bit afraid of their first time having sex. Will I enjoy it? Will it hurt? Will I satisfy my man? Is he the right one? These are all questions that most women think about before their first time. The truth is that your first few times having sex will not be remembered as your best sex ever. Most women agree that the first time often hurts a little, is uncomfortable, and is often very clumsy. Once you get passed the first few times, you will start enjoying all the pleasures that this type of intimacy has to offer.

Being Ready

The first thing to consider is the person you are with. You want your first time to be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. Since sex will most likely be not that great the first few times, the person you are with is what you’ll want to remember. Many women often rush into sex before they are ready because their friends are doing it or because their boyfriend is expecting it. Neither of these should be a part of your reason, there is no correct amount of time to wait; you just want to make sure that you will not regret the decision later.

A few questions you can ask yourself are: Do I trust my partner with my life? Can I see myself having a long relationship with this person? Is he pressuring me? Is having sex for me, or for someone else?

Although everyone has anxieties, if you don’t feel you are completely ready, wait. If the guy you are with really cares for you enough, he will understand that this is a big decision, and you don’t want to rush it. You do not want to give it up to a guy who is worried more about his stature with his friends then your feelings.

Tips

1. Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your bedroom may be the best place.

2. Choose a secure time when roommates / parents / friends won't come barging in.

3. Gain some experience ahead of time. You want to have explored foreplay for quite awhile before you take the plunge. Having a good understanding of how your and his body works as well as having played together will take away much of the tension. Make sure that you feel 100% comfortable in the nude with the lights on, as having sex will be much more intimate then looking at each other.

4. Communication is the most important thing in a sexual relationship. Make sure to talk about doing it ahead of time to make sure that you are both thinking the same thing. Getting the topic out in the open allows you to become more comfortable with the topic.

5. Most women feel pain during intercourse the first few times because they aren’t used to having an object penetrating them. This can be reduced dramatically through fingering. Whether you finger yourself or your partner fingers you, stretching out your vaginal opening will definitely improve the experience.

6. Feel free to say stop when ever you want, whether you haven’t started, are starting, or are well under way. It may be because you are getting cold feet, or something about the situation feels wrong, the reason can be whatever you want, just make sure the person you are with will honor your wishes.

7. Although lubricant will not stop all the pain, it will definitely decrease it to some extent. K-Y Jelly is most often recommended, and it can be purchased in our online store.

8. There are a few positions that are really good for starting out, depending on your concerns. If you want to be in control, then we suggest having your partner lie on his back, and you can straddle him “cow girl style”. If you would rather be on the bottom, the missionary position is probably the best way to start.

9. If your partner has difficulties with his erection, something that often happens the first few times, be supportive. This can be one of the most embarrassing things that can happen to a young man, and if not dealt with properly, can result in ongoing problems. If it does happen, try to stimulate him a little, and take some time before you try to put it in again.

10. The most important thing you need to know is to use protection. Whether it be to protect you from pregnancy, or to prevent contracting STDs, you want to protect yourself to the fullest extent. Until you have been with your partner to get checked for STDs, and you are on other birth control, there is no excuse for not using protection. Just because there is no excuse not to use them doesn’t mean that guys will do everything they can to get away from them, and be prepared to hear everything from it makes me go limp, to it takes away from the pleasure, to they were sold out. You can buy condoms at most pharmacies, or order them online from our online store.

Remember, this experience should be an extremely special and intimate time for both partners. Good luck, and remember, the best sex happens with people you care greatly about.

Answer 9

Don't do it. You are far too young and your life will be torn apart if things go wrong. There is more to life than having sex.

Wait until you are financially secure and your partner has proved his committment though engagement to be married.

It is so important to get your priorities right. I waited until after marriage and boy was it worth the wait!

Answer 10

it will hurt a little at first. if you have masturbated your hyman should already have broken so this may make it less painful.

condoms rarely split and if they do, you can get the 72 hr pill from the chemist, if yoiu're worried.

you sound very responsible!

dont worry, the first time is usually a bit of a disapointment, but it gets better with practice!