okay so my bf has divorced parents so he spends 2 wks with dad, and 2 wks with mom. when hes at his moms, i can see him whenever we want, so we pretty much see each other every day. but when he goes to his dads, we dont see each other at all cause we are not allowed to. i am soo miserable and unhappy for 2 straight weeks and my bf KNOWs i am unhappy without him. but he never makes me feel like he still loves me or misses me. if he knows i am so unhappy, why doesnt he try to make me happy by letting me know he cares? i also already talked to him about this in the past and he said WHATEVER. weve been together for 2 1/1 years. is he worth being miserable? i am 17 by the way
2007-03-25 06:21:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 1/2 years is a very long time but your problem is a big one....if he jus said whatever to the way you feel thats a shot below the belt my advice find a way to be happy without him, stop depending on his company to make you happy be happy on your own...to me he seems like a bad average boyfriend someone who is just too laid back for you and too lazy to let you know how he feels...either you get over that problem about him not caring that you miss him or you get over him completely and move on!!
2007-03-25 06:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your misery is your problem...not his. You should find your own self worth in doing and being involved with things that make you feel good about yourself. If you only feel good about yourself when you are with another person - there is a good chance that you should not be in a relationship until you work on you.
Your boyfriend has absolutely positively NO control over the rules his parents set for him. I can only imagine how difficult it is for him to be in two different places each month not to mention his parent's frustration. Be supportive and take the two weeks to work on your personal self worth - you will find that you feel better during the time that you are with your boyfriend and my guess is he will be happy when you quit all of the nagging.
P.S. Starting a relationship at 14 1/2 is not the best foundation. A few more life experiences might help you during the down times. (use the time away to get a few more under your belt)
2007-03-25 13:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Shelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him as you say it should not be a big deal to be without him for a little while. If he still makes you happy when you do see him then just enjoy that time together. soon you will be 18 and then you two can decide where to go from there.people have to grow up to understand that life is hard and we don,t always get what out of it.Life is to short to spend time fighting about the small things.
2007-03-25 14:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by wharrison49 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, his family is more important to him at this time than his "relationship" with you. And besides, why do you want to be so clingy??? You're 17! Get yourself a job, go to college, do something positive with yourself so your self-worth is not attached to your boyfriend. He's sending you a message loud and clear! You should be happy he thinks so much of his family. I think you're being selfish and childish. Grow up honey and put all that frustration into making yourself a better person standing on your own two feet! The question is...ARE U WORTH IT? Yes...you are worth an investment in yourself. Get up off of your miserable butt and do something positive with your time. Godloveya.
2007-03-25 13:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are miserable, the relationship isn't working. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it's the truth. If he doesn't even miss you, he's not worth it. I know it's hard, but you should at least talk to him about it and suggest breaking up. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-03-25 13:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Chels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop being so needy. the next time your bf goes to dads surprise him and stop nagging. ask him "did you have a good time." there is nothing he can do about the situation he is in. i am sure he wants to see his father and misses him every two weeks as much as you miss him when he goes. your bf will appreciate your new found independence, and confidence.
2007-03-25 13:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probaly doesn't know what to do to make things better. If you're not allowed to see eachother, then it looks like there's really nothing you or he can do. If you're so miserable, then you do something about it.
2007-03-25 13:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kat Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, surely you can wait 2 weeks at a time. i have a crush on my best guy friend and haven't seen him in 7 months and 12 days.
2007-03-25 13:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by †StrongAsDeath† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the dads problem not to let his son have a girl,you need to talk to your b/f he can lest find a way to call you.
2007-03-25 13:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋