Should I let me ex quit paying Child Support?
Is it ever wise to waive a child support payment in return for spousal cooperation or more time with the child?
I no longer absolutely need the child support since I remarried.
2007-03-25 06:13:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, he needs to be responsible for the child he helped to make.You have NO garauntee that your current financial situation will change (your current husband could die suddenly GOD forbid or lose his job and you your job).If your husband is involved in the child's life, and sees the child often then he doesnt mind paying it, if he does mind paying it then he needs to pay it even more to make him realize HE is just as much responsible for bringing a child into this world as you are.
2007-03-25 06:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child support has nothing to do with visitation. A parent should have the right to be a part of his/her own child's life. The child support is not for you so how can you say YOU don't need it? Put every cent in an account for the child for his future. Tell your ex you are doing this. Remember YOU got the divorce and YOU remarried NOT the child.
2007-03-25 13:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, child support is your child's RIGHT, not yours to give up. If you don't need the money now, bank it for college. I would not drop the child support order simply because you are remarried...a) this is not your new spouse's child to support, b) you never know what the future holds, and c) it takes a while to get a new order. If you want more time with the child or he does, discuss that mutually and work something out.
2007-03-26 21:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still the child's father and I'd say the money is deserved of the child and you have no control over what's going to happen tomorrow or next year , etc. If something happens to you , then what? I personally have no idea what the legalities are but at least there would be guaranteed money there for the child, right? And maybe you could put this money away for the rainy day fund for the child..
just some thoughts...
2007-03-25 13:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by simon07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that child support should be paid by any parent that does not do their share of child raising. When my ex asked for 50% time and proved himself to be a very good father, I dropped the order.
I think it depends on your idea of support. If you believe that a man's financial support is the only kind your child needs- or the only kind he's willing to give- that's one thing. I traded financial support for the support of a loving father and it worked out wonderfully.
On the other hand, if he's not participating in the raising of this child, he should still at least be participating in the financing of a happy childhood.
2007-03-25 18:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by eallison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not.. that's not your new husbands responsibility
even though he is willing to support you both.
Why should your ex get off the hook. If it was alimony, then yes, that's the law when you re-marry.
If you don't need the money then put it into a savings account for your child for their education or maybe a car when they get there. But don't refuse the support.
Remember, once you do you can't go back into court and change your mind if say you and the new hubby don't work out.
2007-03-25 13:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. It's still his(?) responsibility to provide some financial support for the child even if you don't need it.
You didn't say but I am assuming that your ex is a man. Men are trained to show love for their children by providing for their material needs (like paying child support). If you take that away from him, he might not know what else to do for your child and start making excuses to stay away.
2007-03-25 13:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child support is for the children. He is resposable for them until they are 18 or done with college. Spousal support can stop after you remarry.
2007-03-25 13:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the guy PAY, honey! It's his kid too and he should have some responsibility in that. If you don't need the money, put it in an account for the kid. DO NOT LET HIM OFF SCOT FREE! He's still the kids father and you want him involved in his life. You don't know what the future holds so have a little nestegg set aside for your childs sake. Godloveya.
2007-03-25 13:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in my divorce decree that if i remarry during the years of child support that I would have to report it and child support would stop, so yes i think you need to check the laws out and stop it since you are married again.....
2007-03-25 16:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋