We met long time ago and she was 12 i was 16.She had a crush and i just thought she was cute back then.I couldnt have thoughts getting with her cross my mind because she is my friends cousin and i kinda used to think about her age.The communication died but after like four years well we started talking and eventually dating like six months ago .I am 20 she is sixteen.i began to see wat was somehow missing.She also recently like last month confessed her love for me.I took it with great happiness,but i wonder if she is the right age for me to start a crazy sexy cool relationship with and what must i do to ease the pressure off her because sometimes i have her getting worried about satisfying me(not in physical pleasure though).
2007-03-25 06:08:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sixteen is too young for you at twenty. A rule of thumb that I've been told is half your age plus seven (in this case 20/2+7=17). More than that, you need to think about where you are in your life and where she is in hers. It is UNACCEPTABLE to go to a prom after the age of 21. Do you really want to be that guy? And if you don't, do you really want her to have to miss her prom, or to go with someone else? Go in your own directions and try again in 5 years.
2007-03-25 06:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with her being 16 and you being 20 in the sense of a relationship most people that get married have a 4 year difference in age heck I'm dating a woman 20 years older than I am. It depends on the two of you if your right for each other. The only big problem you'll run into is the legality of everything it is illegal for you to have sex with someone under 18 unless you are the same age. If her parents don't care then it's fine but if they do they can put you in jail if you two ever sleep together or if you break her heart after having sex with each other you could get put in jail becuase her parents may then have a problem with everything if things have gone on this long I would wait until she's 18 then you two can be together with out any problem
2007-03-25 13:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my parents are four years appart, they met when my mom was 16 and my dad was 20, got married 2 years later and are still together, this was a long time ago though when older relationships were more acceptable. I think u should at least wait tell she's 17 or 18 before you really do anything. She's probably going to worry about experience though since you most likely have a lot more.
2007-03-25 13:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by love_alw_693 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is my life you are explaining.me and my husband has known each other since I was 11 and he was 15 we started dating when we was 17 and 21. I think i was the best thing for our relationship because we know everything about each other we were friends for along time before we started dating and we wachted each other growup and we grew up together we got married at 21 and 25 and now i'm 28 and he is 32 and we are still to gether when people meet ut they all ask if we just started dating because that is how close our relationship is. just keep in mind as time goes on that she is younger and ther are things that you may have done that she may not have experienced yet like clubbing and parting its ok for her to do these things you have to trust in her and trust me she will always do the right thing. and because she younger she may still be somewhat influenced by her friends but that will pass as with the parties. and go with her to her Prom it not her fault you are old;-) as far as her friends go just remind her as settle as possible that this is you and her relationship and your main concern is her true feeling and she hear you when you talk.
Goodluck and I hope your outcome be as great as minds!
2007-03-25 13:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by aneesah m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
four years...well not much dif. than three wich is what im chasing now and i gotta say i dont see anything wrong w/a three year dif. or a four for that matter. as far as her worrying, be there for her, comfort her when she worries and tell her that as long as she loves you, you have all you'll ever need (even if u do have sex on ur mind, dont say that, it just brings more pressure). take it slow, dont rush, if u rush u'll end up putting too much pressure on ur relationship and u might screw it up. dont rush.
2007-03-25 13:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by choux pastry heart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not require an age.
look at tom cruise and kate holmes!
okai... bad example....
hehe.
well, go with my first comment because i totally believe in it.
Did you know that this 104 year old lady married a 30 year old man? It was her like third marriage, and his first.
They apparently have a very 'passionate' relaitonship.
its true!
But yeah... just proving my point...
2007-03-25 13:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, it is illegal. When she is 18 and you are 22, then go for it.
2007-03-25 13:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋