My boyfriend's name is Kris. We've been dating now for 6 months and we are in love. In the beginning of our relationship, we'd send each other msgs through our phones hourly. To see what each other was doing, how their day was going, etc. Now, he doesn't even answer some of my msgs. I realize that the "honeymoon" phase is probably over, but I'm taking it as him not caring.
Also, we barely get to spend time with one another. I spend just about every night at his apartment, but we work late and I arrive at his place around 10 or 11 and we go to bed an hour later. Lately, he's been wanting or in my opinon he'd rather spend time with his friends than me. Going out to bars and what have you and coming home at 1 or 2 in the morning.
I really want to settle down and I'm looking at the relationship as a potential marriage in the future. He has given me hints (some suddle some not so suddle) that he has thought of me as his future wife but he doesnt show he truly loves me. How do I find out?
2007-03-25 05:56:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Realistically speaking, you've only been together for six months. While it's normal for you to be thinking of a future together, six months is not enough time for you to really know if he is the one, so just be patient.
Have you considered the possibility that you could be smothering him? You stated that you spend EVERY night at his house. Mix it up, let him come to your house, or spend some time with your girlfriends. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. I personally think that it is unrealistic to want to spend every waking moment with your significant other.
Speaking of unrealistic, your expectations of him will never change if you do not communicate your concerns to him. He is not a mind reader, so he probably thinks everything is great because you say nothing. You stated that YOU think he doesn't care. The only way to know for sure is to ask him. Do so now!!!
2007-03-25 06:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good sign if you say that the "honeymoon" stage is already over! I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and we still call each other and text each other every day just to see what the other is up to and just to say "i love you!" you know? Don't commit your life to someone that's already letting the flames wither down. Find activites to rekindle the flame...it's so important! Maybe you guys need a truly open talk. Communication is so important. I know that you've probably heard that a million times before but I can't stress how important that is. Honestly, my mom is a relationship therapist so I've been around this my whole life. It's really stressful when it comes to relationships that I'm in because she is always giving me tips on how to make my relationship better. Honestly, now the relationship I'm in, I have everything that my mom has told me to look for in a guy...it's truly amazing to find. One night, when you're laying in bed with him, cuddle against him and start with how you feel about him. Tell him, "I love you so much, you're so special to me...aren't you glad that we have this? You make me so happy babe, I couldn't ask for anything more." Then wait to see what he says. Don't just accept, "yeah, i love you to hun." Ask him what makes your relationship special, what it is that he loves about having you next to him at night. I know that this sounds really up front, and it's practically asking, 'so, do you care?' but you're going to be so relieved when you find out that he does care. Don't drill him on questions or obviously you'll make him suspicious and you don't want to give him a reason to feel insecure with your relationship. Just let him know how much he means to you and hope that he'll return with how much you mean to him. Most guys aren't open about their feelings so what you get out of him all depends on much you're willing to tell him yourself.
2007-03-25 13:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont know things like that. We only have ideas from learning from our past.. besides that only helps a little cause women are not all the same in many areas. We go with it and learn more about the heart we are dealing with, as we go.
2007-03-25 13:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by redeyejester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've only been dating for 6 months. slow down. if he's truely the one for you, then you have plenty of time to be thinking about marraige.
2007-03-25 13:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him, plan some alone time for just you and him and ask.
2007-03-25 13:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by thicknsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient
2007-03-25 13:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋