i dont want this to sound to fruity
but i like this guy and he wanted to ask me out but hes to shy to do so,
so i gave his friend my myspace to give to my love,
the thing is that im so unexperienced... hes my first love
what if he does asks me out and i say yes, what do i do next
i mean how do i do the move to kiss him or what should we talk about,
i know you guys must be thinking "crap another love story" but i need advice,
im 14, hes 14 too... any advice
2007-03-25 05:48:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I was fourteen I got my heart broken by a cute surfer my age that I had been watching all summer long. We kissed (french kissed) and the next day he "dumped" me. Trust me when I say, you don't want this to happen to you.
On the bright side, you haven't done anything yet. So on the topic of love and romance, kissing should be a physical gesture shared when both of you have been talking for a while, learning about your likes, dislikes, and genuinely relating to each other. If you don't do it this way, you'll be disappointed. Why? Because you are a GIRL. We girls are so much more emotionally mature than boys in our teens. So here's a tip, you can control this entire situation by asking him questions about him self. If you are still interested, ask more questions, try to imagine you are talking to a cousin or another girl. Be natural.
Also, don't say everything at once. Pace the conversation so that you can go out another time and tell him the rest of whatever you were talking about.
Don't gossip with a boy. Talk about real world stuff or TV or video games or food or sports. However, make sure to throw in some of your interests too, but don't expect him to be enthralled okay. He's just 14 and full of himself and his hormones. Girls to him at that age make him nervous. You need to put him at ease. Just don't flaunt yourself or you'll be a tease. This goes for kissing too fast. Know where you end and he begins.
Good luck!
2007-03-25 06:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by El Pajaro Loco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this actually sounds like me and my first girlfriend. I was too shy to ask her out, because I had never did anything like it before. So, if he says yes and you go out with him, show some love and like hold his hand and hopefully that will break the ice.Cuddle with him whenever you get the chance. That is always a plus. With the kissing part, it is kind of hard when to judge when to kiss someone, but you will know when to. Trust me you will know when to kiss him. Whenever the time is right and when it feels right to do so.
Hope this helps!
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2007-03-25 05:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by bullDoG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know that most people will say that at 14 you are too young to be in love but i know that that isnt true. So, I think that the guy should be the one to make the first move and if you really are in love then talking should just come naturally.
2007-03-25 05:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Taylor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys are so funny sometimes. Always thinking about what should happen next and "what if" this and "what if" that...
RELAX!!
you guys get so caught up in over analyzing a moment that you fail to enjoy it. Don't let inexperience be a drag on your life. Let things happen and enjoy them when they do. I mean, when the times comes that you get that first kiss, don't be thinking about what should happen next. Enjoy the kiss while it happening. Turn your brain off for a second and enjoy the moment.
Don't rush things either. things are a lot more enjoyable when they happen on their own.
2007-03-25 06:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Thrill K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel...im 14 as well, but i actually asked my love out, but anyways...when we hanged out, she was kinda shy, and i dint want to make a move like hold her hands or anything because i didn't want to make her more nervous....so what i just did was just stand there next to her and see her talk with her friends...and once we had to leave i well just give her a hug...(so at the time i gave her the hug, it made her realize that i wanted to do more stuff that has to do with dating)....so you could do that. you could just give him a hug when you have to say bye....our first kiss was a big deal to me, i wanted to make it memorable....but we sort off planned it...but the way we got to the planning was when i was talking with her on the phone, and she said " have you ever though of kissing?" and thats when i said yeah...so i just told her that i was going to wait for the right moment.....when your around your bf is going to be hard to talk about anything so i just suggest you to just hug him and show him that his everything to you...and then you guys could talk about something on the phone or something...and thats how you can have something to talk about when you see him....
good luck!!
2007-03-25 05:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by erlebach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please hold on and think.... you are young and do you want to become a non-virgin?when you lose it,
it never comes back. As far as dating, you know theres years ahead of you which you can date and mingle with friends, dont feel so rushed. You could also stop and look over the situation to make sure it isnt peer- pressure oriented. Also, is he a good friend? if so, are you sure you want to risk his friendship by upgrading? good friends are few and far between. i hope this might help but its really your decision. be careful, though.
2007-03-25 06:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys should be good friends after that. just be your self when you're with him, think of him as one of your girl friends. but dont share girly stuff with him tho. ie tampons... kisses doesnt need to come right away... wait for the right time then move in... you will know when its the right time
2007-03-25 05:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you all are young for one of those sappy love stories.. go for it!! cause i can assure you if you dont you'll always have the question of "what if" in the back of your mind as for what happens next dont even sweat it with that.. .as time goes you will kno what is next im experienced so if you need more advice just ask me...
2007-03-25 05:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by iiSABEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, try to use good grammer. The word you're looking for is "inexperienced"..
Just do what ever comes naturally, you will know. Don't even think about sex at this age......there's plenty of time for that later. Just enjoy his company and he yours. Enjoy your date!
2007-03-25 05:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by rockyboyrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋