my girlfriend is 12 years old, 5ft, and 90lbs. today is her birthday. i know for a fact she doesnt eats breakfast or lunch. im not sure if she eats dinner or not. but she hasnt always been like this. its been going on for a lil over a month now and she cries daily. i know somethings wrong with her but i dont know how to help. shes been very emotional lately and has missed alot of school. a month ago she was 110lbs. its not like her to stop eating all of the sudden and lose 20lbs in one month. shes obsessed with exercising and i think she overworks herself. she does acting, cheerleading, dance, baton, and gymastics. she does atlest 3 of those everyday and afterwards comes to my house crying her heart out. she just tells me nothings wrong but i can tell shes lying. i dont know what to do. plz help me i dont want her to hurt herself.
2007-03-25 05:42:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
typo sorry. shes 13
2007-03-25 05:48:02 · update #1
i know it cant be something going on at home because her parents are very caring and want to help her also but she wont talk to them either. i try to be with her as much as possible and try to make her feel better but it doesnt work
2007-03-25 05:49:57 · update #2
Talk to her. Tell her that you're worried about her, and it makes you sad that she's sad and overworking herself. If she refuses to talk, try talking to her parents and see if they have noticed similar symptoms. Don't team up with her parents against her though, as this will stress her out and might ruin the relationship. Just try be patient and caring, but try not to allow things to get any worse, as the results can be serious. I hope things work out for you!
2007-03-25 05:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be an eating disorder; but it really sounds like she has some sort of issues going on. She sounds like a really amazing girl. But I think you should speak to someone about getting her help. It sounds like someone made her feel like she was larger than she should be. BUT SHE MOST DEFINITELY IS NOT!!!! 110 at 12 yrs old is perfectly fine.
Make sure you let her know how much you care for her and what an amzing girl you think she is. Tell her it doesnt matter what she wieghs; it only matters how good a person she is.
Please also speak to an adult about what is going on with her. A school counsler, a trusted teacher, your parents, her parents, or anyone else who can help. She might be upset with you at first; but once she realizes how she's hurting herself; she should be greatful that you cared enough to help her.
2007-03-25 13:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Her weight is going down way too fast, and she seems depressed and she's obviously over-working out. Talk to her parents and explain them the situation just like you did right now. They'll understand and will take her to a doctor. You'll have to talk to her, because she may get mad if you tell her parents about her issue, 'cause she will deny that she has an eating disorder. Tell her that she could die faster than she thinks, or she'll end up in a hospital for many, many years. Good luck!
2007-03-25 12:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by le.riot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is already hurting herself--she seems to present as an anorexic type of person. Try offering her some food and check out what she eats or doesn't eat. Try telling her she's too thin--see how she reacts. Many true Anorexics don't see themselves as thin when they look in the mirror, and this obsession with exercise is another sign.
She might need to see a doctor but it is a very sensitive issue, so continue to be sensitive, as you already seem to be about the whole thing. Sounds like you've got reason to worry, but then ... if you worry too much--you'll wind up needing help yourself.
2007-03-25 12:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by WILLOW-the-wisp-guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it and you better have a talk with her mom and dad before it goes to far and if she does not have good supportive parents go to the guidance counselor at your school and tell them...they have to help and want to! There is obviously something going on with her from your description it does sound like the beginning stages of depression but it also sounds like she might be being sexually abused...So, check into it if you really care about her HELP her!
2007-03-25 12:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by reggiethecokegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her, listen to her. Tell her you're there, ready to do anything... and just LISTEN. Tell her to tell you how her days are, and if anything's stressing her out. Tell her you're there.
20 lbs in a month? Not healthy. She is only 12 and is already stressed? Oi.
I'd say listen to her.. but if she ever asks for advice, suggest to her she should take it easy. No one should be that stressed at 12 years old. I was in a million different sport clubs at her age, but even then.. I tried to take it easy.
Just be there for her, but don't go telling the whole world she's depressed or anything.
2007-03-25 12:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by j12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could very well, she needs medical attention. have you spoken to her parents yet? are they aware of what's going on? is she in any form or counseling or therapy, because she needs to be...
i know that you need to get this addressed as soon as possible, because my own eating disorder started off with overexercising at the gym and limiting my food intake to 1 small meal a day. that was over ten years ago and since then its done irreversible damage to my body and mind. it's important she gets the proper help soon, because this disorder can virtually take over your life a drug addiction.
2007-03-25 12:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely not healthy. You should talk to your friend. Tell her that you are concerned about her health. Then you should talk to an adult such as a guidance counselor at your school about your friend's problem. If she is having a problem, she will be grateful later on.
2007-03-25 12:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Doozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like anorexia. Try and convince her to see a doctor. The sooner she gets help, the better.
2007-03-25 12:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by omithechickengoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be starting to develop an eating disorder. she's only 12 years old? maybe you can talk to her parents about it, or even your school councilors.
2007-03-25 12:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by dsnake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋