I feel like I'll never fall in love again?

Question

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say what I felt about her, but all my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else.

I guess I'll just see you around." She talked to everyone in the hall but me. I left her. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. I think I probably should just tell her happy birthday to show that I remember. Maybe I shouldn't even say that. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change.

I'll ask this in the form of a poll. Should I-
#1-Buy her a birthday gift and hand it to her
#2-Just say happy birthday to her (she's turning 17 and I'm 17)
#3-Completely ignore her

Also, today I thought about it and I realized that in the last month of us talking, when she got angry at me, I had not done A THING to her. I was changing what she said I was doing wrong.

EXTRA NOTE/DETAIL NOT REQUIRED FOR ANSWERING QUESTION: I've been hurt before by crushes every single time, but this is the first time I've fallen in love. I learned something though; just because a girl seems like she has everything I've been looking for, doesn't mean she's the girl for me. She could change up anytime. I'm never leaving myself open for getting hurt by falling in love again, because I'm not giving her my heart until she earns it. This is the first time I've fallen in love but it's the last straw, the last time I try to be someone for somebody. Like my name says from this song, I got this Icebox where my heart used to be.

EXTRA NOTE/DETAIL NOT REQUIRED READING FOR ANSWERING QUESTION: When I liked her, she said she had liked me first. Then I asked her how she liked me the next day and she said she didn't know. It wasn't until a month later she said she didn't like me, but I really liked her. The girl I fell in love with was a really shy, sweet, funny, beautiful girl. At least, I always felt she was beautiful even though everyone around me said she's just alright and she's no one special. I have this false, ridiculous small ray of hope that maybe one day she'll talk to me but I just don't want to try anymore.

Answer 1

You are only torturing yourself by allowing her to treat you so badly. Based on your information, it's time to move on. I cannot imagine wanting to be with someone who is as rude as she is. Don't change yourself just so some girl will like you. Be patient, and the right girl will be there at the right time.

As for her birthday, choose C, don't buy her anything and ignore her. What a silly girl she is to be so mean. She does not deserve to rewarded for such ugly behavior.

Best luck.

Answer 2

I think you should not buy her anything. Don't give her too much attention because when you give somebody too much attention then they are going to take advantage of you. I think you should move on with your life because she is playing with your head. Don't worry about that you will never love again. Let me tell her you want to be with a person that threat you write, that respect, that doesn't play game with you. I am pretty sure you are pretty boy. That you will find a girl who like you for who you are. Don't give her any gift for her birthday at least she will see that you are trying to move on with your life. She will feel bad that she wasn't nice to you.

Answer 3

sounds like you have a broken heart but you wanna be her friend. make her understand that you want to be friends. if that doesn't work then let it go. it takes a while for a broken heart to heal but trust me it is not the end YOU WILL FIND LOVE AGAIN. it will just take some time.

Answer 4

if u truly feel like u done nufn 2 upset her n she ignoring u than i say let it go ... . talkn to her, tryn to get her attention when she doesnt want to tlk to u will only make things worse..she will b even less intrested in you. girls like guys who r hard to get .. who giv them attention but not enough to know exactly wot they r finkn. try ignorn her for a bit..wlk past her n dunt say hi...treat her the way she bn treatn u. she mite realise wot she missn out on. u dunt hav to completely ignore her but if u say hi to her and she doesnt say anyfn bak ..do not tlk to her the next time u c her..she will feel like ur being stalker and dats such a big turn off. for her bday if u c her maybe jst say happy bday but do not buy her a gift ... thats jst way too much . how is she gona accept a gift from u wen she doesnt even wana speak to u. snds harsh but true. from my opinion the only thing left to try is to play hard to get .. because being nice obviously isnt working. if dat doesnt wrk than its time to move on im sure there is hundreds of gurls who will b willin to tlk to u !! goodluck.

Answer 5

#2 buddy. while, walking by her in the hall... just look at her, while still walking, and say happy birthday. then look forward and keep walking. dont get her anything cause then it will look like you're stalking her or something.

you're looking needy, thats prolly why she's getting mad at you.
just ignore her after that, and she'll come to you later on.