i like this instructor who works at the local gym, Whenever i go there, he always chats to me for about 45 mins to an hour on a one to one about all kinds of stuff, he always asks me to go in when he is working, he tells me the times of when he was working and asks me to go in and see him. He came into the gym looking for me once too. He has given me compliments and also walked me to my car the once, and I never notice him talking to any other girls! He has a girlfriend but has recently split with her, and he told my friend that he knows that i like him and that he doesnt want to lead me on, so now I'm really confused, it really seemed like he liked me, I mean why would he spare so much time talking to me and why would he ask me to come in ect, if he had no attraction/interest at all?could it be it's too soon for him? do you think he likes me at all?
2007-03-25 05:32:25 · 24 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what you've wrote I would have to say: "No, he doesn't like you". Look somewhere else.
2007-03-25 09:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he does like you.I think he is doing the right thing cuz the last thing he wants to do is hurt u n it would be a rebound relationship.He is fresh out of a relationship.U don't no if he might get back with the girl which would hurt u a lot more if things went further.Keep on doing what your doing n just let things happen.U both have established a wonderful friendship n that is great.Now see how things go just don't push him.U should make a plan to go out with your friends for an evening n invite him to go out as friends no strings.Let him no u would enjoy all your friends to be there.When there is no pressure it helps people feel more comfortable about going out on the town.As long as there r other people with u then it doesn't seem like a date.This way you'll get to see 1 another outside of the gym n will get to no each other more.Good luck n hope it works out 4 ya bye 4 now.
2007-03-25 12:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple. Yes, he does like you. I dont know any guys that spend 45 minutes talking to girls they dont like, or have some interest in. But the dilemma for some guys is that they are too passive. They want to wait for a CLEAR signal(which we never get) that the girl is interested. And more importantly interested in the same way. Personally I think he should just take a chance but that is not the way all guys are. Some are just a little more careful/intimidated.
Also you are correct to keep in mind that it may be too soon for him after his last relationship. But, based on how you described him and what he has been doing, I doubt it. At this point you bascially have 2 choices.
1. Keep waiting for him to muster up the courage to do something
2. You be the one to make something happen.
Girls it would seem, have a habit of overestimating their actions. We guys simply dont recognize a lot of the signals you claim to send. Kick it up a notch or something.
2007-03-25 12:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by ricky ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it could be that he really liked you as a friend, he found common grounds with you and found that something that attracted him to you as a friend, there are many possibilities..he could be still mourning about his ex and he needs a little more time...it sounds to me that this guy is a good guy because of his statement " i don't want to lead her on" ...just give him time and give the whole situation time. If you seem to run out of patience then you could always ask a close friend of his to reveal his true feelings for you. Sorry there is no right or wrong answer here.
2007-03-25 12:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he likes you but you also don't want to be the rebound person in his life. So for now just stay friends until his split with his ex is at least a few months old. Also, is he chatting with other females the way he chats with you when you are not there? Trust me...just be FRIENDS!!!
2007-03-25 14:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants a one night stand. If he's an adult, and liked you, he's have asked you out to dinner by now. He's waiting for you to suggest going out for drinks. After you've made the first move, he'll wait until after you've had 4 cocktails and your defenses are down and suggest "its late" and one thing will lead to another....
2007-03-25 12:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is trying to replace the one he lost with you but that can be ify so i would try to get a better understanding about him try to see if he has kids or not if he does he cant handle the stress and needs to get help around the house but may also like you so just look out you may be getting over your head
2007-03-25 12:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Brian H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEs he likes you and fell comfortable , but as he just broke up he is unsure of everything. He needs time to settle, time alone. Might be to early. just try to talk to him and treat him asa friend see how he reacts when you say .. " i havea date with this boy"..
2007-03-25 12:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might like you from the way you describe it. Do you like him? If you do then when you go to the gym wear your sexy clothes and attract him.
2007-03-25 12:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by jeanny d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he likes you and he would like to spend some time with you ,but i would like say wait it out and see if he gives you more signs. to me i think he is liking what he see but you cant move on or back down which ever one you decide to do you do what you mind or heart tells you to do . follow your gut
2007-03-25 12:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by kitten_lover_bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think he is one of them type guys that like you to your face & when around others he's kinda like nahhh. i think he just has a problem with admitting things. i think he likes you, but, maybe he is scared of getting in a relationship cas he isn't exactly ready. just give him some time, he may be confused. =]
2007-03-25 12:37:29 · answer #11 · answered by & she will be loved. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋