I cheated =[?

Question

Ok last night i was hanging with my friend/ex but we are like really good friends.
we know its over i made it clear that im taken.and i didnt want to cheat on my boyfriend well we were talking...and he kissed me..i didnt know whether to pull away or not.i thought i might feel old feeling if i kissed back.well we only kissed for about 20 seconds..then i pulled away i felt so awful and i didnt kiss him again.i dont know what to do. im in a relationship and i love the boy with all of my heart.and i dont know if i should tell him or not.

Answer 1

If you think kissing another guy is cheating, then thats a bit of a stretch. If I were you, I'd just forget about and act like nothing happened. The guilt your feeling is enough of a lesson. But if it bugs that bad, then just tell your boy friend and be done with it.

Answer 2

Morgan

what you did was wrong and this is your mistake and now you have to live with it DON'T tell your boyfriend because he will start to second guess him self it was only a kiss it could have been a lot worse don't ruin a good thing if you haven't already.

1. You need to make it very clear to your"friend" that he put you in a messed up situation and friends don't do that to one another Friends want to see the other friend happy.

2. you need to try to disassociate yorself from this friend but be disgreet because you don't want to make him angry and report this little event to your boyfriend

3. You need to ask your self why are you so selffish that you would but other people feeling on the line for temptation. And you also need to ask your self why weren't you with your man instead of your ex . If you had been with him or home you wold not be in this situation.


KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT AND DEAL WITH YOUR OWN GUILT YOU ALREADY TOLD EVERYONE ON ASK.COM NO NEED TO TELL ANYONE ELSE NOT EVEN YOUR BESTFRIEND BECAUSE IT WILL GET BACK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND TRUST NO ONE IN SITATIONS LIKE THESE.


GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

kissing = cheating???

wow, the stardards have really narrowed in the past few years.

look, you did it, you know you shouldn't have and you feel remorse for doing it.

if it's something as simple as a kiss, then don't tell him. There's no sense in hurting a person and causing a strain on your relationship with your current guy. That is, if you still want to have a relationship with your current guy.

If you're only thinking about telling him to clear your conscience you will only end up hurting him. You did the deed, you're the one that has to live with those consequences.

All people have secrets that they keep from their partners. This may have to be one of yours.

but ask yourself this...if your boyfriend kissed his ex for about 20 seconds, would you want him to tell you?

Answer 4

Lol... that brings back memories..... I told my boyfriend at the time and he went right into accusing me of having slept with the guy. It was a disastrous moment and I regretted having told him. Throughout the marriage, he brought it up every time I suspected him of being with another woman. He used it so that he wouldn't feel guilty. I vote NO don't tell him because I guarantee you, he will use it against you. By the way, you didn't cheat on him. My definition of having cheated on somebody is when there is intention to take it to a level where it is unacceptable behavior.

Answer 5

Uh... ignorance is bliss. (So, maybe you shouldn't tell your boyfriend, it might start more drama.) If your ex initiated the kiss just get some distance between you two and tell him you don't want to be around him if he's going to pull stuff like that. It really isn't good. My ex is the same way. >_<

Answer 6

You shouldn't tell your boyfriend what you did, that will only create unnecessary problem remember guys are simple and insecure and also for future refines, when you break up with someone you should keep it that way and cut all ties unless you both are 100% positive that you can handle being friend and nothing more.

Answer 7

Im guessing your not stupid, so why did you putyourself in a position like that with someone you hade been intimate with before? you probably wanted to see if he still liked you, and being good friends with him doesn't cut it. tell your boyfriend, and maybe read a meditative book, you have daddy issues but they are not severe. If he finds out otherwise your relatinship is definately over.

Answer 8

Why did you allow it to happen for 20 seconds? The only ans- you still hv feelings for this ex. Either that or, deep inside you, you like forbidden excitement. If my boyfriend does that with his ex, I'd say he cheated on me. Cheating means you hurt someone with your actions. To tell him or not, it is your decision.

Answer 9

whoa! I say...you dont need to tell him. Anyway, your ex kissed you first! Its his fault. I would do the same thing if I was in your shoes. If your boy is the forgiving type, I say tell him. But to make sure it dosnt happen again... talk to your ex about it and tell him that your happily taken and dont want any drama commin... and never to do it again.

well, goodluck!

Answer 10

Okay... I've been there hunny... You need to come clean with your boyfriend because if you don't the other guy just might tell him himself... You don't want the other guy to think that there is still a chance... COME clean and if it's meant to be then your boyfriend will forgive...