o.k if I take certain things out of my personals profile in order to get more responses, how do I bring up the

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subject later. If I take the part out of my profile where I am looking for commitment and marriage and will not live with someone I am not married to, how do I deal with the situation of sex when it comes up? Most people nowdays expect to have sex way before they marry , if they bother too marry at all. I am no saint but have learned the hard way not to sell myself cheap. I will not be used again and have never gotten a man to commit to me by having sex with him. I can take out the subject inmy profile, but how and when do I tell any perspective man there will be no sex with out marriage? I don't know that saying I am old fashioned would work because alot of people say they are old fashion (including guys) but they still expect sex. sex is important to me, but so is having someone to grow old with and the acceptance of my family and child and not living in an immoral relationship.

I am not really a religous person but have tried meeting people at church but they tend to be too judgemental on the basic things in life like what type of music I listen to, etc. I have tried dating strict christians and have found that they were more interested in converting me than dating me. Just looking for a person with traditional values and morals, not a fanatic.

Answer 1

Taking things out of your profile in this way IS selling yourself cheap.

Its a form of trickery, not malicious but still trickery.

It would be better if the man also wants no sex till marriage, good luck finding that in the western world.

Most women have been so sexually active that they have ruined it.

When women make better choices in a mate and stop picking "mr hottie excitement" over the better guy thats when this situation will improve.

Answer 2

You are correct, you are seriously limiting responses with
these preconditions..
And while I do understand your feeling about the sex in the
relationship and your absolute right to take this position, I
would suggest that it is a bit premature and overly defensive
to take this as a position...
Just make sure that the guy really is someone you would
consider as husband material before you agree to a sexual
pre-marital relationship...And get a good Pre-Nup..
I think that your belief that a man who would wait to have sex after marriage is going to make a good husband is erroneous , false, not true, wishful thinking...

Answer 3

You think too much. If you were walking down the street and bumped into a nice man who asked for your phone number, would you unload on him saying you will not get into a relationship where you live together because you are looking to get married?

The point of dating is to get to know each other. So you don't need crap like that in your profile, and don't just jump into bed with them and think you are going to be walking down the aisle and then making babies before you even get to know them.

Geez.

Answer 4

You could change it to something like:

Looking to establish an emotional bond before a physical one.

But you shouldn't remove it entirely from your profile, it makes sense to screen people out who are interested in more casual sex before you date them. I understand that you probably enjoy freeloading and stringing them along, and having them pay for dates, until the issue comes up, but it isn't really fair to them to waste their time like that.

Answer 5

if you aren't looking for sex..why are you on an internet dating site???!!!