Why is it that when you lose the one u love u think of all the things you coulda done? My man of 6 years is leaving me and we have a child together. He says all i do is nag, well he hasn't had a job in 3 years except for hit and miss. But i love him and we have a 4 yr old son together. Worst of all he is interested in another woman which makes me feel worse. I have devoted my time and love to him and took care of him and repays me by saying i will stay until i finish remodeling your house and then i am out of here. House has dangerous soft spots in floor. My heart is aching. What should i do? Help! This girl he says he is only friends with right now and i caught him with her, just talking but it was the two of them alone. He promised me he would not have any contact with her. Of course, i tried to physically assault her and he pinned me to the floor in a choke hold until she safely got away. Now What? Do i just let him throw away the last 6 years of my life?
2007-03-25 04:47:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy is a loser - he hasn't had a job in 3 years, so he obviously hasn't cared about taking care of you or his child. That is reason enough to dump the selfish jerk. Who cares about whether or not he is interested in another woman - they may be doing you a favor by giving you the freedom to meet someone who will truly love and care for you. If you believe that he is the best you can get, I would suggest you start surrounding yourself with positive people who will help build you up so that you can deal with some very poor self esteem issues. I can hear you saying after my last statement, "this is different" or "she doesn't understand this situation".... I do, believe me. Guys like this are a dime a dozen - common trash. Toss him to the curb - it's where he belongs.
2007-03-25 04:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, he's started an emotional affair with this women. He isn't man enough to help support your son, or you! He's escaping with this other person and trust me it won't work out for them either. You don't want someone like this around your son full time, he's setting a very poor example and you are too if keep him around.
The nagging is simply you trying to have some sort of communication....you're trying to get him to participate in the relationship & he clearly doesn't want to.
FYI Cheaters always try to blame the other person for their mistakes.....don't take to heart that he's blaming you for this. Its NOT your fault whatsoever! Just concentrate on your son and you.....never put anyone in front of your child or you - EVER! Be the best Mom you can be.
I have a 3 yr old...caught my husband cheating when he was 3mos old. He too said I nagged him, I threw him out on his ***. He didn't offically sleep with this women until I threw him out, before that it was the "Emotional Affair" which is worse then physical! Yours is cheating emotionally for sure.
2007-03-25 05:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kazzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go.... hes not worth having.. he doesnt have a job.... he has another woman .. he pinned u to the floor in a choke hold, till the other woman was safely away.. how can u get over that? if u cant change him.... change yourself... find a better loving respectful, trusting, employed man that will treat u like a queen... the only way u can go is UP....he will always be a jobless disrespectful cheating worthless man... that will continue to go DOWN in life... good luck
2007-03-25 05:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to leave, he's going to leave whether you like it or not. You do not have control over whom he talks to, has relationships with, spends time with, etc. You were way out of line to attempt to assault her. Be thankful you didn't have the cops called on you. I doubt you want to lose your son over something so petty and immature.
Do yourself and your child a favor: Grow up and move on. Learn to take care of yourself. This man is a loser who can't get and keep a job and he's clearly made his decision.
Nothing more you can do.
2007-03-25 04:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you aren't throwing away 6 years of your life, i'm sure you had some great times with that guy but sometimes two people aren't really meant to be together. he really doesn't seem to be treating you very well now though, so your best bet is to move on and find someone who treats you the way you should be treated. btw physically assaulting someone isn't the way to go...
2007-03-25 04:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by emsss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is probably going to be WAY easier said than done but I'll tell you what i think. First of all, you need to make sure you have a calm conversation with him. No matter how mad you are, you should try to avoid yelling. Remind him that his son needs a father figure to look up to. Sons rely on their father when growing up because they need something to model their life after. Tell him that if he's just having problems with your realtionship, that he needs to try and find a solution rather than just walking away from the problem. Have a very serious "heart to heart" and remeber keep it calm. Remind him of all the things that you have done for him, kind of try to put a guilt trip on him. If he still wants to leave simply tell him that it's a huge mistake as you are the best thing that will ever happen to him, once agin trying to put on guilt trip. The biggest thing of all is to remain calm, supress your anger, and express your saddness. I wish you the best of luck and i hope this helps.
2007-03-25 04:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Silent.K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Are you guys married? If this guy wants to be with another girl, then you need to move on , and find youself a man that'll love you for real. Good Luck.
2007-03-25 04:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by calmangel4all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing..Get him away from you now. Find others to help you through the pain part. You have to listen and start letting go.. He choked you huh.. Get a cop or another guy there to help him pack.
2007-03-25 05:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by tonez61 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you but it seems like he wants to get out. But do you really want a man who choke holds you for antoher woman? I know what you are going through and heart aches are difficult to get over, trust me. But Just try to forget him and go out and have fun and meet new people!
I really wish you the best of luck and I hope your heart ache gets better.
2007-03-25 04:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by pebblespunk2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go..He obviously does not want to be with you and you are just wasting your time..No man or woman is worth fighting over..You should have more respect for yourself...
2007-03-25 04:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋