After being on one dating site for a while I have joined another one. I got a lot of response on the other site but have been on long enough to have met alot of people and am seeing the same old people on it all the time so I changed sites. I see some familiar faces but mostly new ones. I am getting alot of view but very few responses. I kept my profile the same but added 2 new sentences and think that might be it. Should I take these sentences out and wait till I make contact with someone to bring the subjects up or should I leave them in? One thing I say is that I am looking for someone serious and committment minded and that I would never just live with someone (I have morals) and the other is that I don't really want anyone with young children (I have one that is almost grown) and not really looking to deal with children again. I have tried it with 2 guys and they never had time to date because they were too busy with their kids. I thought it made sense to be upfront.
2007-03-25 04:40:03 · 5 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to waste time with someone who isn't looking for the same thing or someone too busy raising children to do adult things.
2007-03-25 04:40:45 · update #1
I am a 40 year old woman who is looking for some one around my age so I don't know why it is so unreasonable to not want to deal with young children. I would think that they men older than me would have their children grown already but I can't believe how many 56 year olds have 2 or 3 kids under 10
2007-03-25 04:42:42 · update #2
Sometimes its not what you say but how you say it? Yes, some of the dating sites are pretty frustrating, same people and no one is really interested in the same things. However, if you change your wording a little it might help.
By saying old fashioned values rather then never live with someone, I have values, makes a difference.
Also saying I'm looking for someone who wants to date with the possible outlook for a long term relationship, softens what you are saying. Always be honest and upfront with men. If they know where you stand they feel safer.
As far as the issue with children goes, make sure you say you are not interested in raising another family again. You will lose some men who still have children and if you don't want to become part of that, then being honest upfront helps.
I hope this helps some.
2007-03-25 04:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by JOANNE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep in mind that you are trying to sell yourself. Word your ad as positive as can be.Think of a car salesman who said I dont want to speak to you unless I think your gonna right a check today. That would be a turn off. You want to emphasize all your positive points with a smile....good luck!
2007-03-25 11:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fact of life..most 40 year old men..spend their time chasing 20 year old women.
you obviously are looking to get married..and want commitment...
do you really believe that men using internet dating sites..look at the pictures for the sole purpose of getting married?!!!
please tell me you are not that naive!
if you wish to meet someone decent..find him at work, church, in the town you live in..or at school..not on
the internet.
also the two guys you met..who said they were too busy with their kids..might have also been too busy with their wives.
2007-03-25 11:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt change anything.You have been honest about what you want and don't want.You are doing the right thing by being honest if you take thing's out then you are wasting your time..If someone is interested in you for what you want then they will eventually contact you.
2007-03-25 11:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly think you were honest in your feelings , nothing wrong with that .
I would keep it just like you have it , sooner or later someone will come along . Why rush ????????
2007-03-25 11:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋