the problem is that my husband doesnt want another one. we have two boys. I want my little girl. besides i had told him from the begining that i always wanted three kids. he even wants me to tie my tubes. and i am completely against it. how can i make him come around to an agreement?
2007-03-25 04:11:55 · 8 answers · asked by Erica P 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am so glad someone finally asked this question! I am in the same situation. I am 24 i have a 2 year old boy and a 10 month old boy. I would like a girl also.
My husband didn't want any kids to begin with but I came as a package deal with my oldest son. Then I got pregnant on "accident" while on the birth control pill. My husband and I got married a year later. When we found out it was a boy I was so upset. My husband told me we could try for a girl. I married him a couple of months after my son was born and now he is saying he doesnt want any more kids. He always knew I wanted a girl (never even wanted a boy ever) and he always knew how much I wanted a large family. He promised we could try for a girl and now he is changing his mind.
Now and then he teases me saying that we will try in a couple of months but then that month passes and he will tell me he is joking. His head games are really starting to get to me.
I thought about tricking him into it. You know "accidentally" missing a pill here or there but he has safe guarded us against that by using the pull out method. I've even tried to do the whole scoop up the EJ. and put it inside of me thing when he is not looking. But that hasn't worked either. Maybe one of those things will work for you?
Everyone might think I am a bad person for trying to do it behind his back but I think he is a bad person for playing mind games with me and promising me something that is never going to happen. Honestly if he doesn't change his mind in the next 2 years I'll leave him and use a sperm donor. At least with a donor I wont have to worry about someone changing their mind after I've committed myself to them!
If I were you I'd sit down with him and let him know you are serious about wanting another child. Tell him that i he lets you try and conceive again then if you get pregnant you'll have your tubes tied. Let him know that otherwise he must be the one to get fixed. My husband also wants me to tie my tubes, I said hell no unless I get to have 1 more baby and then I will. Even tried promising to sign a post marital agreement saying that we could get divorced and he wouldn't have to pay child support if I backed out of the tubes thing. My hubby wouldn't fall for it but maybe yours will. Also If he is worried about finances, make a budget to show him that you can afford it. If he is stressed by the other kids, try and take on a little more of their care and give him a small break so it doesn't seam like such a big deal to him when they are around. If he is worried about having another boy go out and by the book "How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby" its like $15 on amazon. You can also buy ovulation predictor strips pretty cheap and a ferning ovulation microscope online for $40. By doing all of that you up your chances of having a girl and prove to him that you can do so.
Hope I've helped some.
-Laura
2007-03-25 05:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by laura_essary 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 11:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want any more kids, he needs to get HIMSELF fixed. He doesn't need to be pressuring you to do it, as you are the one who DOES want another child.
If he knew from the beginning that you wanted three kids, and he went along with it, then he needs to seriously reconsider what he's asking you to do.
Is everything, other than that, okay in your marriage? Oftentimes, if a couple is having other problems (aside from what you're listing), one, or both, doesn't want to add another child the the equation.
Unfortunately, there is no compromising in this situation. If you are bringing in an income, too, you DO have a say so in it. It's NOT just up to him.
I wish you luck.
2007-03-25 04:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age in a couple is important. I mean, you must make a serious calculation. When you turn 40, how old wl your youngest child be? Finance is also the issue. If you hv no problem in these 2 areas, then talk to him again. Give him a dateline 'cos it ain't healthy for a woman to hv another one when she reaches her 30s. I was just like you. I only hv 1 boy and I long for a girl. But my husband is near to his 50s though I'm only in my early 30s. I gave him a dateline. When we passed the dateline, he wanted to hv another one, but I explained to him re. the medical concern and our age concern.So now, we are happy with just 1 boy.
2007-03-25 04:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
my son is almost 9 months and me and my honey are finally trying again. there is no real way to change their mine i would like 4 kids, and he only wants 2 i respect his wishes. even the third time around you may not havea girl. so what happens if it were a boy. i understand how you feel. we though have to look at the big picture hows your financial situation. do about stress, house space and car space??? good luck try talking to him thats the only thing.. there really isnt any other way unless you were going to be unloyal
2007-03-25 04:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie unless you are the main income for the family i dont think you can......of course you can always stop taking birth control pills or if your not on them tell him you just started....if this man really loves you he will eventually come around and if its meant to be you will become pregnant again so good luck i hope you get the little girl you always wanted<3
2007-03-25 04:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sexy_love♥ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well first u get him really drunk then when that part is over u get urself really drunk then u go to the bedroom and hope u get pregnant while u do the nasty w/ him and if that dont work theres always a sperm bank.
2007-03-25 04:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by sec_cogley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are ovulating don't tell him. Hide the condoms and go.
2007-03-25 05:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jezebelz. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋