this past weekend it was my now ex-boyfriend's birthday. he & i made plans to just have a quiet night, but it turned into a huge, drunken party with plenty of girls. the whole night he ignored me & then ended up leaving with a bunch of drunk people at 2am. i drove all around town looking for him, and i couldnt find him & he just ignored my calls all night. when he finally get home at 8am, he tried to blame me.
Pretty much the same thing happened two weeks ago. He left me at home while i was sick and thinking that i was having contractions (i was 22 weeks pregnant). he then proceeded to not come home when i called him, bawling & telling him that i needed to go to the hospital.
He & his friends blame me for these situations and try to say that I'm a huge, clingy *****. Am I just extrememly blind and not seeing what I did wrong?
2007-03-25 03:58:59 · 9 answers · asked by Just a girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs to grow up. You need some space away from the crap he's pulling. There is NO reason he needed to be out until 8am, I wouldn't put up with that for one second. And how could this possibly be your fault? Did you put gun to his head and tell him to stay out? I'm going to assume he and his freinds are young...not that age makes the behavior okay...but it sounds lke something very young guys who don't want to take resposibility for their own actions would say. It's completely natural to be "clingy" right now, you are pregnant! It really gets under my skin when guys say stuff like that. It's completely insensitive and immature.
Right now, as hard as it is, you need to focus on you and the baby and keeping the stress level as low as possible. Step away from him for a bit. If it comes down to it, you can do it on your own. I know you don't want to and I hope he pulls his head out of his rear-end...but if he doesn't, you have to take care of you and your baby.
He's being a jerk...you deserve much better treatment.
2007-03-25 04:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Marina D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds of it you sounds way too good for this guy and he is a jerk!!! however your message indciates that you are still pregnant so this may be effecting your hormones making you more insecure however your boyfriend should e there for you whatever and I think if he can't be relied upon then you should maove away from him and take your child with you to proetct you both!!! he will only cause more hurt for you!
It is hard to be on your owna d if you cannot leave then maybe give him such space! play it cool for a while and hopefully playing it mena will keep it keen!!!
Good lcuk with the baby and sorting it all out
2007-03-25 04:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Curly Wurly Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to break this to you, but your ex has knocked you up and moved on. Stop having anything to do with him. Accept what has happened and concentrate on keeping yourself and the baby healthy. Show him that you can live your life quite happily without him. If he comes around make it clear that his friends are not welcome and that his past behavior is not as well, and if he doesn't like it dont let the door hit him in the rear on the way out.
2007-03-25 04:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you did wrong is get pregnant by that jerk. Now you're tied to him forever.
Sounds to me like he wants to be away from you. Why else would he be causing so much drama? He just might want you to be the one to pull the trigger because you are pregnant.
2007-03-25 04:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much better off without him. Sounds like a real jerk.
2007-03-25 04:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by pilsung_shopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord child---count yourself lucky that you lost that one. He obviously has a problem including you as a priority in his life.
2007-03-25 04:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop taking the blame for his actions. he sounds like a very immature kid. his friends arent any help either.
2007-03-25 04:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to me it seems like you didn't do anything wrong. but it sure seems like your used to be boyfriend is a jerk. he should've been there for you especially when you're pregnant.
2007-03-25 04:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by x-c runner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO,you are not the one who is wrong here,He is.DUMP the LOSER!!! to the left,to the left.
2007-03-25 04:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by ....~K.C.~.... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋