My recently ex bf's daughter still wants to come to my house and hang out with me and my daughter; should I still be like her mom to her; or should I break all ties since I am not dating her dad; though, we still talk but dont think we are ever going to be together again.
2007-03-25 03:55:56 · 11 answers · asked by hdg07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well she is 13 and my daughter is 16; they get along great; she is a great kid; her dad and I get along for the most part I think; we are trying the friend thing; he says he just needed some time; so even though we are not a couple right now; he said that doesnt mean later we might not be together; so im torn; I miss him terribly; but; I have always told her that no matter what she can still call me and if she wants to come over she may do so.
2007-03-25 04:08:01 · update #1
Come on she is a kid!
You can't be mean to her and break all the ties just because you broke up with her dad.
You can be a friend with your ex-bf, If you don't want to, just let his daughter feel she is welcomed any time at your house to play with your daughter and hang out with you.
2007-03-25 04:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sulto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen girlfriends or boyfriends bringing their significant other to live with their parents and usually it's under bad circumstances and it hardly works out. If they are over 18 and there is enough space (maybe a basement or guest house) then it could work because it would be like their own apt. Therefore if they broke up it would be like the boyfriend leaving an apartment not a parents house. However, it will probably create drama if he cheats on her or vice versa because he will have nowhere to go. You also have to ask yourself how liberal you are as a parent and if they are setting a good example for your younger kids. Also, do you feel comfortable knowing what they will be doing under your roof? will this help keep her on track for school? If she gets pregnant, will they end up staying there with the baby? There is a possibility that they might not be grateful for what you are doing and they might start thinking that they are in charge of the house... which is why space is a major factor. More space for them means less dominance issues. So many things to consider. I know that I wouldn't do it if I were in your shoes but then again I grew up in a house where my boyfriend wasn't even allowed in the house! Good luck!
2016-03-29 03:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this all depends on how well the relationship is with the ex. if things ended on a good note then there should be no problem, but if they did it may be a little awkward having her over if you still decide you want to continue seeing her. However, this could prove to be a positive. If you continue a relationship with is daughter then the fact that you and your ex are not together won't be burden. this way you keep two good friends
2007-03-25 04:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on how old she is. If she is 12 or older I would say let her stay in contact with you and your daughter. As a mentor, not a mother. I assume she is around the same age as your daughter, and they are friends. Never call her. Eventually her father will meet someone and you will be in the way of her developing a new relationship.
2007-03-25 04:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, This is a really hard question.
If you think you guys are still going to be friends and your not going to hate each other then let her come over. She feels comfortable around you and your daughter and she enjoys being there.
But if you don't think you guys are going to be friends then tell her no because it will keep tying you back to him and it will be hard to move on and start your life.
2007-03-25 04:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Christina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't break it off with her. If the 3 of you still get along then I would say yes.
2007-03-25 04:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you care about the child.The little girl did'nt do anything to you.So why make her surfer ? she must like you because she miss you, which means you must be A positive role model for her.So continue to talk to her and be there for her, but do not let the dad use you through her.
2007-03-25 04:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by kenken81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just enjoys having some other females to talk too or a mother figure. Sounds like she enjoyed you, so why not still talk to her. Thats how friendships start with young girls too, maybe she just enjoys your daughters friendship too.
2007-03-25 04:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Carlos G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her come over and play.. NO big deal..Unless you arent over him and her being there will hinder the process of moving on...in which case I say " He didnt deserve you...you can do much better, yada yada yada.. " Just let her and your little girl play . whats the harm in it, really?
2007-03-25 04:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by heatherclhn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet, i love kids
2007-03-25 04:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋