My ex gf called to tell me she was starting a new relationship?
After being apart for around 3 months (after almost 3 yrs) my ex calls to tell me she is going to be dating somebody exclusively. After a month of being apart we've been talking once every 1-2 weeks. Why did she make it a point to call me in the middle of the day to tell me this? Is she being vindictive, or is she looking for me to fight for her? Is it a rebound relationship?
Follow up - I've been thinking of getting back together with the ex for a month or so but haven't pressed it because I wanted to give her her space. Should I risk her new relationship and the potential relationship I'm working on to fight for her or should I just let it go?
2007-03-25 03:42:57 · 16 answers · asked by Nonyo B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave her alone, hun. She's moved on and so should you. By trying to "Get her back", only makes you look desperate and childish. She may had told you this information about her moving on to let you know that she has and for you to "take the hint". Don't worry though, there are more women on this earth than her. And believe it or not, more women whom you may have a better relationship with. Good luck to you.
2007-03-25 03:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is this the script for a "Romance comedy?" or what? After three years , yes , you must find out what exactly is going on here. Questions; who broke up with who and why? who started calling who and why? What sort of things did you two talk about? . The only one true "test" that both of you could endure to try and figure this out is , "double date". Scam if you have two, you know, find out where her and Mr. new guy are doing one weekend and just "happen" to be there with your Miss New. Think of something! All is fair in love and war! Those old feelings may begin to reveal themselves when you see each other. (especially when you are with somebody else) Good luck and if the s**t hits the fan you can always blame "bad advice"
2007-03-25 04:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not have posted this in marriage and divorce.. Because you are not either!!! Second of all you made a big mistake in talking with her once every 1-2 weeks. What do you think ex means? Third of all, why do you even care why she told you? My personal feeling is she wants to taunt you (very big clue that she is skum and double good you escaped from her) Forth of all, do the right thing and let her go for good and give your new sweetie half a chance to show you what a healthy relationship is all about. Fifth of all, be happy you didn't waste anymore than 3 years with her.
2016-03-29 03:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally when a girl calls and say they are in a new relationship they are being a *****. They want you to be jealous. Which normally does work.
But if you think about it, you guys broke up for a reason. A reason that was or was not good at the time but there was a reason of why you guys didn't want to be together. It is time for both of you to move on especially if the girl is into alternative ways of making you jealous and calling to notify you on them. You both are still hung up on each other though, because she is calling you still and you her. But if you get back together it isn't going to work out as it once did.
2007-03-25 03:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Christina W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she's trying to decide if you're going to get back together or not. The call was basically a warning. It meant "speak up now". If you want to get back with her, this is your shot.
Do you really want to get back with her? Do you think the two of you can work on the problems that have kept you apart, or is it just easier to go back to what you know? Give it some thought before you make a move.
2007-03-25 03:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R you in the race for 2nds? She dumped you or did you chase her away? If I were you I would want to know where I stood in her eyes. This is not a pride thing. She may have had a very good reason to call. maybe to tell you she loved or missed you . You need to find out by talking to her. Good luck!!! If someone doesn;t hold you as # 1 in thier life I would not fight for them . BUT>>>> how would you know if you don't ask?Ask yourself ... who makes you HAPPY>? Thats what life is all about ,.... not security!!! Life is too short for wasted time fighting!!!!
2007-03-25 03:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by remi m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tuff one but if i know women an i am one so....she called an informed you just to see if it would cause jealousy if you want her an did not show jealousy big mistake thats probly what she was waiting to see if you still want her an did not show her your jealousy show her cuz i can tell its there she just needs to know that you still care the way she does!!!I bet if it was turned around you bein the one in a new relationship she would also be feeling this way.
2007-03-25 03:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by luv2hate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her tell her you want her back. Don't give up on her if you really care, but if you are afraid to see her with someone else and not sure how you feel for her then let her go.
2007-03-25 03:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by suckowsgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you felt when you were with her. If you truly loved her, and still love her I would definitly get back together. A fight is always bad, but love should be stronger.
2007-03-25 03:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by tophat0246 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to wait, she is a pie-in-your-face waiting to happen.
think this through and i'll bet you can find something or someone else to spend some time with...
2007-03-25 03:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋