okay, i think my bf never makes time for me:(
on monday he was like, wanna meet up on wedseday, i said yes, then on thuseday he was like" i am sorry but i have got a birthday party of a cousin", i was like "okay" then on thurseday he was like, wanna meet up after school, when i texted him i would like to, he was like "cant still at school"... Then friday he was like, what are you doing sunday, i said i might have time, and yesterday he was like, do you still wanna hang out thats fine but i have darts at 14:30, i got really mad.. am i being unreasonable??
he is like "i miss you" every evening, yet he goes darting 4 days in the week!!!! its sounds like a lot of empty words to me..
is it wrong for me to want to come before his darts, and not the time that he might be free afterwards? i want to feel important!!! like he made time free for me, he doesnt get it...
Am i being unreasonable, and if not, how do i get my bf to get my point???
Please help me
2007-03-25 03:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am so sick and tired off all the empty promises:(
2007-03-25 03:25:00 · update #1
you'll be there til doomsday!! just lay it out straight if he cant understand then maybe he never loved you in the first place
2007-03-25 03:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your bf enjoys playing games with you, I wonder what he's really doing when he cancels with you. I wouldn't call or text him for a while and would follow him to see what he does. I bet he's seeing someone. And he tells you yea and then at the last moment he cancels just to make sure your at home. But he is playing mind games with you. ANd I thought you were going out with a guy not a kid. If I was you I would just drop him and move ona nd find another who likes been around you.
2007-03-25 03:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being unreasonable.. i think he's playing games. i would get mad too if my girl said lets do something and everytime she changes it to do something else.. that is very annoying. next time he asks you just say no and if he asks you why just say cause your tired of his bullsh*t, that your tired of him making plans for you and him and changing it to do something else. let him know that your not feeling appreciated and that if he doesn't provide the attention you need than you can't see you and him working out.. let him know how your feeling and be very serious about it cause he's giving you the run around. if he doesn't change i suggest you find another guy who will kill to be in your presence cause the one your with right now isn't showing you how important you are to him.. he rather play darts.. what the hell.
2007-03-25 03:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget this unreliable sod and get a bf who isn't playing you against another person......
Move on and be happy.
Your bf is playing you for a fool. Cut him off.
Give yourself 1 hour to be sad and cry (if needed), 1 hour to be angry and then the rest of your life to be happy.
I know this is not the answer you want but its called tough love. Don't be a forever 2nd rate doormat and get out there again, there are plenty of decent guys who wont treat you as bad!
2007-03-25 04:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by confused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down when you get the chance tell him how you feel exactly then make a point of saying , if you cant try and make some time for me this relationship isnt going to work . tell him how you feel about him breaking his promises.
sometimes with guys its like a power struggle for pole position in the relationship but im sure that he loves you and misses you he just needs to understand how you feel properly
good luck
hope this helps
2007-03-25 03:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by spongebobs biggest fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way.. you should talk to him. Say something like, "Look.. I don't think we are spending much time together..and I feel really lonely. I'm almost out of patience with myself. Can we spend some quality time together for at least 2 days?" Try saying that you want to take a vacation with him. If he denys it move on. He's not worth you time. He's just wasting your youth.
2007-03-25 03:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you really like this guy - is he worth the hassle?
If yes, then you are going to have to talk to him and tell him what you told your mates on Yahoo!
If not, dump the loser and find someone who puts you before flinging bits of metal at cork for fun!!
Good Luck.
2007-03-25 03:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hun i feel sorry 4 u. he probably thinks he can treat u how he likes and you'll still stick around as long as he texts u saying 'miss you' bla bla bla. unless he actually shows it and makes u feel loved its totally meaningless. why dont u turn the tables on him and when he asks to see you, say no sorry im busy so he know how it feels. spend some time with your friends, at least you can trust them not to let u down :) you'll probably find you dont need him anymore once you've taken your mind off him and then you'll move on to find someone who treats u better. good luck xxx
2007-03-25 03:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by chrissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it sounds as if your boy friend is playing games with you. My advice is, don't buy into it. The next time he calls tell him you have plans that can't be broken... Trust me, men love the chase...so, let him run after you for awhile.
2007-03-25 03:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by jimmie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he should take more time with you, talk to him, tell him how you feel. if this carries on, then find someone who will appreciate you. you seem like a nice girl, if he losses you he will regret it. play hard to get. good luck x
2007-03-25 03:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by honey xx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋