Do you believe in fairy tale relationships?

Question

Personally, I do not. I am an amazing woman with soo much to offer the right person. I have reflected on people searching for a "soulmate", a prince/princess, the "perfect match", "Ms/Mr Right". It saddens me how blindly people move into relationships - expecting "happy Ever After". "true Love" takes self confidence, self reflection, honest open communication, mutual respect, making love together, etc etc etc. It requirs commitment and hard, ongoing attention and work.

Please try to respond from a "real" place - not pop psychology babble. Tell me what you really think.

What amazing answers - thank you for taking the time to speak real. You are all fantastic SMILE

Answer 1

I think we are all brain washed in the early stages in our lives to believe that but once you get older you see a relationship is far from a fairy tale. It's hard work and will never be perfect because there are no perfect people. You have to no what you want for yourself as a person and what you want out of a relationship. I use to have a list of what I wanted in a guy but it was all appearance wise which was not important at all. My boyfriend is the total opposite from that list and I love him with all my heart because what I truly needed in a relationship, honesty, loyalty, respect, security, he gives me that. Its not a fairy tale but having the things that are important to me makes it worth fighting through anything to keep it together. That's what real relationships are all about.

Answer 2

I believe in true in love. I have it. But its FAR from a "Fairy Tale Relationship".

A relationship is work, its never easy. You have to put time and effort into it, just like everything else in your life. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, couple or person for you.

But there is, true love. And this is something that can only befound WITHIN the person. Meaning, you love them for all their faults, all their inperfections, every annoying thing they do, no matter what, no matter how old, how young, how beautiful how ugly. You just love them.

And it does exist, its just rare. I have been through so much with my spouse, and we are still so much in love. It hasnt faded. And its still a working progress, and we are far from perfect, and still hurt eachother alot. And if we stopped working on it, our relationship would fall apart. And we wont ever live happily ever after, I know that. I know that we will always have our fights and always have our obsticles.

And even with ALL that love that I have for him, I dont know if I would call him my soulmate. I dont know if one of those exists? Hes the person I turn to for everything, he makes me happier then anyone else in the world. But a soulmate? I dont know, he doesnt understand me enough for that ! To much thinking for a man hehe.

Answer 3

When you say perfect match or soul-mate, to me that means a very strong love that lasts beyond the initial infatuation stage. Sure, that is real....it is also a rarer thing than books and Hollywood make it out to be.

There are people who's personalities fit together like a lock and key. When they find each other it is a bigger love than other loves. And still you have to work to keep that, just like you have to work to keep a friendship.

I guess if you agree that all loves are not created equal, then we are pretty much on the same page here.

Answer 4

No one is perfect so how can we expect to find the perfect match. there are no such things as fairy tales... there are just that just tales. but i do believe in real love. i walked into a relationship blindly thinking that things would be wonderful. things arent always wonderful ive learned that and there will be UPS and DOWNS. but true love is being able to discuss the problems that arise and work through them together. you have to be honest with yourself and with your partner. im getting married in may but over the last few years my fiancee and i have really grown a lot together and thats what true love is.

Answer 5

yes i do believe in fairy tale relationships. When you have one you have all those things you said it requires to make it work .. And it is work to keep it! As long as you live the dream w/ all the intentions of the things listed above, you can keep & make the fairy tale a reality. Thats where the work comes in . Keep it real and be honest in your commitment then its not so hard. Its when we disappoint others where the fairytale dies. Its how you handle the disappointment that can make or break the event. It all comes down to treating your partner w/ respect as if you would treat yourself!!! lLove them like you love yourself!!!

Answer 6

In all fairy tales, the lead females are helpless little creatures who need to be rescued from peril by some clichéd hot guy on a horse. I'm the kind of female who kills her own witches and rides her own horse. So, no, I don't believe in fairy-tale relationships.

Answer 7

The woman in me believes and agrees with you about what it takes to have a healthy mature relationship. The little girl in me wants to come out to dream, play and believe in fairy tales. The trick is to find a happy medium. :)

Answer 8

i do agree that every relationship needs to be worked on to make it last (experience has shown me that) --- i do believe in the fairy tale as well again experience --- i met a lady online yet ---- at first second and third glances totally incompatible yet is was love at hello --- then the hard work begins to make it work and keep it fresh long term

Answer 9

Everyone wants the fairy tale romance, that is why movies and books are so popular. They are not the real world, in the real world nobody is perfect and mistakes will happen.

Answer 10

I believe in true love, yes i do