I have sent out 20 emails to guys and have gotten 2 responses back. You would think there would be a few of them with the decency to write back. The two responses I got back were "the age difference is too much" He was 39 and I am 41, wow what an age difference. This same guy was looking for someone 25-37 (funny there wasn't toomuch of an age difference there). He was looking for someone too young for him. The other was currently dating someone and seeing were it went. why did he still have his ad visible? You should hide your profile if you have started dating someone. I have tried other sites and never seen as many non responders as I have on this site. It seems men are always complaining that the women never respond back to them, but doesn't it look like they are the same way?
2007-03-25 03:13:10 · 8 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All I can say from my experience with Yahoo personals is there are alot of con men out there. And, of course there are married men and cheaters on there who are too weak to get out of their unhappy marriages. These types of people justify their actions because they think there are alot of people like this out there. Well, while this might be the case, there are also decent people online too. I mean, you're online and you're a good person, so trust me, there are good people like you too!
What I would do is have a list of questions and stick to the list.
Never give anyone from online your personal email or your phone number. Use the personals for the communication. I mean, you are paying for the service, so use it fully to your advantage. If you do agree to meet in person, never tell them where you live, and always meet them in a public place. Also, if things progress and there is chemistry between the two of you, then, do a background check on this person and keep track of what he tells you in case you catch lies and different stories that don't add up. Another thing that I've learned about men is alot of them are insecure and like to play the field for fear of letting an opportunity pass them by. Once you are involved with someone sexually, make it very clear to them that you will not continue a sexual involvement with them if they are with other women. I made the mistake of doing this, and assumed that the guy I cared about felt the same as I did. I was wrong, because he didn't care at all about my feelings. Only his own gratification. I learned a valuable lesson in my error of judgement. Good luck out there and remember to always protect yourself. You are worth it.
2007-03-25 03:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that for a lot of guys now, online Internet personal ads have become sort of passe'. A lot of guys have moved on to other venues to try and find women. When this all first started, the Net was mostly a bunch of computer freak type guys with very few women anywhere to be seen. You'd have maybe a hundred or so guys on these sites for every woman, and the women would never take the initiative or anything, but just sit back passively and wait for the guys to come to them.
Another thing too is that there is more "outsourcing" going on these days with guys in America. It's a vastly under-reported phenomenon - guys meeting and getting to know women from other countries outside of America after initially meeting over the Internet. I myself did this and I'm living happily ever after. If, God forbid, I was in a position to be looking once again, I would look overseas once again.
2007-03-25 10:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by the phantom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, take the time to go over your profile. If it is all about what you want you are limiting your response. Try giving them an idea of your likes. NOT DISLIKES. I say allot about fishing and being happy. I also have a nice looking picture for them to gaze upon. ( not sexy, I am just walking down the street)
I have never searched for a man because that takes to long. I let them search for me. Then I choose the ones I want to find out about and respond to them accordingly.
This way, it is I that has the choice, meaning the ball is in my court and I don't have to be insulted. I am 47. My age choices are between39 and 65 and they have to be financially stable.
That's all, and I have gotten over 500 responses with a huge amount of great dates and 2 serious relationships. Also, I am not desperate for companionship and I know how to laugh and keep things light.
2007-03-25 10:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by birdshoecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well while not on yahoo i did the same thing --- to ladies i hasten to add -- and got no response at all --- so i think most of the people (male and female) are there just to see what bites they get and have no intention of making contact --- i also had a set of criteria in mind and when i met my lady those criteria went out the window -- so perhaps open your mind to other possibilities and best wishes
2007-03-25 10:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows
2007-03-25 10:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by buddyholly4eva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those guys are lo$$ers
2007-03-25 10:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right
but you'll find a gooden in the end.................i hope
2007-03-25 10:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Me ;)
2007-03-25 10:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋