I am a peace loving person.how can I win a argument with a stranger or with someone close to me?
2007-03-25 02:46:58 · 21 answers · asked by MI 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well, sometimes you can't.
What does "win" mean.
You are best to think much, talk less, and open your mind to what the other person is saying.
You find they are right or partially right, you may find holes in their logic, and you may find THERE is no real argument.
Many arguments are in fact, shouting matches without listening on either side.
What is your objective? To be "right" or to have the best intellectual solution found.
Sadly, politics fools people in seeking the former when wisdom should enforce the latter.
2007-03-25 10:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you know what you're talking about!
Realise, however, that to win doesn't mean always 'coming out on top'.
The true resolve of an argument is a winning situation.
For example ...
When Marital Disagreements Arise:
- Assess the Situation
- Defusing the Argument
- “Pay Attention to How You Listen”
- Use Listening and Insight
- Aim to Resolve, Not to Win
- What You Can Do Now
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/6/1/article_01.htm
It helps to be a master of ...
EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- Scriptural Examples of Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm
And, since we can't help but make mistakes, at least on occasion, we ought to be prepared to ...
Apologize ...
- Why Should I Apologize?
- - &, Why Is It So Hard?
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20021101/article_01.htm
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2007-03-25 19:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By nature of an argument-it can't be won peacefully.
Also, by nature of the word 'win', there must be a loser...not a very peaceful situation.
However if you are having a discussion with someone and you are both truly open minded then the only way to 'win' is if the other person (being open minded) acknowledges that they had not considered what you mentioned and recognize it as being correct...although if this is the case then both of you 'win' b/c you were discussing, and you were both enriched by the conversation. You can both agree to disagree, which, while it is satisfying if you both enjoy discussion, would not constitute as 'winning'.
If you want to be able to have peaceful discussions with others I would suggest not trying to 'win'.
2007-03-25 14:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by anika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you seek peace you dont argue absolutely!!!!
1. Find out why the difference of opinion came in the first place.
2. If you are right, just wait ... the other person will realise and accept or make mistakes and not accept ... why should that bother you
3. If the other person is right, there is no arguement at all
2007-03-26 09:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hungry soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know also, but sasly I don't think you can win an argument with some people. The old saying the teacher will appear when the student is ready. If they are not ready to hear your side, there is nothing you can do.
2007-03-25 09:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by MST3K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak less, listen more.
I am also a peace loving person. Whever I have argument with my wife, I listen more, speak less. She win the game and it is winning for me.
In my profession of consultancy, I listen to all. I avoid saying bad and I win arguments peacefully. I listen to all fools, new comers, racers etc.
2007-03-26 10:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient n hear is part completely.
thn ask him to hear ur part clearly n not to interrupt u wen u speak.
after ur part give him time for his clarifications. Always keep ur voice low. Dont give him a feel tht u r arguing.
If the other person is impatient and doesnt want to hear ur part, thn boldly tell him u r not a person eligible to have argument with n leave him. it will be better for peace btw u both in future.
2007-03-27 01:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by kaun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well theres a contradiction... peace loving people dont argue. You present your case, you acknowledge that they have a good case also, because you dont wish anyone to lose face..... but there is no way you can guarantee that you will ever win an argument.
2007-03-25 09:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN,LISTEN,LISTEN
With your open heart, what he says from his heart.
Do not hesitate if you are wrong,
If the other is wrong, try to discuss the matter with him with facts and figures. Arguments have never won an argument.
Kind manners, pleasant presentations will make his heart to open. Try, try try again in attaining perfection in what is said above. Please do not expect any sudden changes. You can make the other man to think on any subject as you think, provided higher skills are attained by constant practise.
2007-03-25 10:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by marsh man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend,
You can win any argument if you are a good listener and remain or maintain a smile on your face and be ABSOLUTELY SILENT.
Speech is silvern,but SILENCE is golden.
2007-03-25 13:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Radhakrishna( prrkrishna) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋