Parents put lots of pressure on us to succeed. When we have emotional problems, parents ask us to fix them on our own and tell us it is our own fault that we are suffering. A significant number of us commit suicide every year. We rebel quite often because of the stress. We grow up hating ourselves because our parents tell us that we are the worst of all humans. Our younger siblings learn off of our mistakes, but we have noone in the family to learn off from. Parents say irrational things to us and even the smallest problem looks so big to them. First-borns, do you agree with this?
2007-03-25 02:22:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anthony C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you have a lot of anger about this reality in your own life. . .
The good thing, about your list of grievances?
It shows that you have a really good understanding of ALL the ills that occur, as a result of this type of pressure and expectation, placed on a growing, maturing, human. . . and because of this? you have a unique ability to see and understand that these problems were your parents', and don't have to become or continue to "be" your own.
Be proud that you have survived whatever difficulties were given you, as you grew up, as they have made you (obviously) a more insightful, sensitive, aware, adult. . .
2007-03-25 02:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of those fb's. It's a big responsibility. The jr's look up to you for advice, and guidance. I've not had a problem with it.
Parents were tough on me like you describe, but if you think about it it comes with the training.
Let your parents know you are cooperative, and appreciate their advice. Parents have a hard time letting their baby grow up. Those little ones are watching your ever move.
Suicide? That sounds like a cop out. You can always come to yahoo answers if you need help. Most of the questions you'll have, have already been answered before anyway. Just check it out in search for questions.
2007-03-25 09:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm disagree with you..
i'm the 3rd child and i have 4 siblings...even though i'm the only girl in the family, my parents seem to put all of their attention to my oldest brother.
i've always tried so hard to catch their attention. even though my high school result is 10 times better than my oldest brother, they still think that it's not a big of deal.
sometimes when he make mistakes, my parents will say that "it takes time to learn"
but when i made mistakes, i will be punish and grounded for a week.
=(
2007-03-25 09:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the youngest in my family growing up and it wasnt easy, i looked up to my elder sister and wished i was the oldest i was so jelous of her her life looked so fun,
Now that i have 4 children i see how emotional children are, My kids have no abuse no stress nothing to complain about and they still hate me..
Your mum must be under heaps of stress too dealing with your attitude as well, I know how teenages can be. But when you really do grow up you will see.
2007-03-25 09:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me!!! Yes,of course its hard to be the 1st born. I also always have the same problem with my family. I have to become a good model to my siblings and it always course me stress! But,sometimes i love to be the 1st born because i can fix my siblings before they do mistakes like me. Im happy if my siblings more better than me. Eventhough it will make me feel jelous to them. But,if i could talk to my God before my mom give birth to me,i say' God,i don't want to be the first born. Please posponed me to the next birth!' Let me tell you something. Please don't hate yourself to be the 1st. Think positive,friend!
2007-03-25 11:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definatley harder to be the first born, we get all the responsibility of the younger ones put on us, we feel we have no one there when we need someone, alot of things do get said that really shouldn't be said, why give us negative comments they should be positive. Yes, I definately agree.
2007-03-25 09:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by sin_lover85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i feel like that some times and when they talk about me i feel sad and just want to run away but what to go i say and they pick on me and i have to stress at home and school because trying to keep your grades up and watch your brothers and sister and i do agree
2007-03-25 09:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by vee20082009 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a first born and most times i get most of the attention and it is so annoying i have to do good in school and watch my brothers it is a pain in the a**
2007-03-25 09:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by cutemarv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what-ever i am the middle child and we get jipped all the time! the first born is always the golden child. the middle child gets left out of everything, why do you think it is called "middle-child syndrome"?
2007-03-29 04:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by jsf19872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really,the first-born is always pampered by parents with good guidance.
2007-03-25 09:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋