This woman kept asking me over and over if I loved her. I went
ahead and said yes because I didn't know what else to say.
I told her afterwards that I didn't mean it and now she is angry with me. How can I resolve this with her and still get the sex??
She is a fine woman and I don't want to lose her.
2007-03-25 02:11:23 · 18 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget the sex. This woman wants a real big R Relationship. She's obviously much higher maintenance than you are ready to deal with. Find yourself a woman who actually wants a FWB situation.
2007-03-25 02:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that love is not something to discuss for the first time during sex. If she asks why not, explain to her that it puts the answerer in a bad position: if he doesn't say anything, he is wrong, if he says no, he is wrong, if he says yes, that is the only way he can be right. And by making it that kind of 'only one answer can be correct' type of discussion, it is not very meaningful. Tell her that you think love is something that should be discussed when the term can mean something. You were saying what you knew she wanted for an answer but it was wrong to be asking that question to begin with, in that situation. You tried to clarify later and she got angry. If she doesn't understand how it happened, and continues to be angry, I'd take this as a very bad sign of how the relationship will proceed.
2007-03-25 09:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think your a good guy for telling her after sex how you really felt.
I could get my man to buy a friggen car during sex. Its so unfair to ask someone when your having sex. And I think most men would of just ignored that they ever said, and let her keep thinking it after the sex was over. So I think you did the right thing about being honest afterwards.
I think shes most likely the type of woman who uses sex as a means of feeling loved. I would apologize to her, and tell her that your crazy about her (since you said shes a fine woman and dont want to lose her, I assume you are interested in her), but that your just not there YET, and dont want to have an honest relation with her. But you think its really unfair for her to ask that during sex. Because as angry as she is now, it would of hurt her alot more if you said "no i dont love you" during sex. She would of been humiliated, instead of angry.
And if she asks it again, just tell her your crazy about her and dont want to lose her if she asks if you love her. That way your being honest without giving her the wrong ideas.
2007-03-25 09:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that you don't love her yet because it's still very early in the relationship for you to make that sort of commitment and get them sort of feelings for someone... but tell her that you do feel very strongly for her and she is special! you could even say that you feel so strongly for her that you think it may develop into love in the future!
Or on the other hand, you could just say that u weren't answering her when you shouted yes... you were just shouting yes cos u were loving the sex! hehe
2007-03-25 09:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up, why is she asking you that question at such an important moment for a man? She knew you would say yes at that point. That is why she asked you. Just tell her that you love her. You really don't have to mean it.
2007-03-25 09:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nasty Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never tell a woman you love her until you really feel that!try to explain what happend and what you feel,otherwise she will get hurt!Most of the woman are putting feelings when they doing sex with someone.You should tell her that you like her,but you can have a serious relation with her.Don't be a coward!:)Good luck!
2007-03-25 09:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by sauvage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its partly her fault for putting u in an awkward situation,u were pressured into saying yes so u could have sex but it sounds like u do like her.maybe u should take her out tell her u really like her and u think ure falling in love with her and u want to be with her forever.
2007-03-25 10:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by pinklady25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve her, what are you having sex with someone you don't love for other than screwing with there heads.
You sound like a jerk to me.
mind you now days it seems like sex comes without love, how screwed up is our world becoming, sure not my way of thinking.
2007-03-25 09:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by David R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should of never told her that you loved her at all if you didn't. talk to her and tell her that you care alot about her, but right now you don't love her. and apologize to her for saying it, that you didn't mean to hurt her feelings. good luck.
2007-03-25 09:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was stupid. if its just some FINE woman and the only relationship you have with her is that, then i really doubt she will give you that. you sound like a pig. become friends with her then see where that goes
2007-03-25 09:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by okey dokey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋