A guy I care about is in rehab (again) for alcoholism. He put himself there. I've talked to a family member of his who thinks he shouldn't have contact with family or friends while in rehab. I think that he should know he has people who support him and love him. What do you think? Should he be left alone or should I ring him? Also, he doesn't know I know he's in rehab. Thanks!
2007-03-25 02:11:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I am a recovering drug addict, and from experience, family and friends are better support than strangers! The best thing for him is to let him know that you support his recovery but not his addiction! Let him know that you will be there for him during recovery with whatever he needs, if he needs to just talk or whatever, but that if he continues to drink, then you want no part of it. Of course, a person can only help themselves if they really want the help and have truely hit thier bottom, but knowing that loved ones still care after all the crap he has put them through can be a very motivating thing!
2007-04-01 12:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by imahippieguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a Friend of Bill W's for years.
The best help my family ever gave me was to go to a program called Alon on They are family members and caretakers of the alcoholic and will teach the right and wrong ways to help one of us The actual alcoholic . The number is in the phone book .. Note AA and rehab are not the same .. AA works better and so does Alon on.
2007-03-25 23:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as others have said, he may not want you to know he is there. however, his family may be totally fed up and disgusted with him and have given up on him. that happens a lot with alcoholics and addicts.
the rehab place may not allow visitors, some don't. or they don't allow visitors for the first few weeks. if you know where he is, call the place and ask what the policy is.
or write him a letter but send it in care of the director of the facility and ask the director to give it to your friend's counselour. the counselour or therapist will know if it's best to give your friend the letter.
2007-04-01 05:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mira N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family and friends have "been" through all this before and they're probably tired of it. I think he needs to focus on healing himself, focusing on his issues, not on anyone on the outside. He WANTS to be successful at this...I'd leave him alone until the time he's just about done with the program. He'll need support for the new "me" when he's out.
2007-04-01 16:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lynda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't know you know...maybe he wants it that way. His family is trying nicely to give you the message. What he needs is contact where he is with those that are going thru the same misery...that is his therapy. He's busy dealing with his own demons. Let him heal. It's a personal thing. Be patient...he'll be home soon enough and a changed man who will want and need sober friends around him.
2007-03-31 19:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang that's a tough one,if you dont visit he may get the poor me's :ie: No one cares so i'll just settle down with my old friend the bottle.On the other hand if you do visit he may think you are somehow weak and try and play you when he feels like falling off the wagon,if you are strong enough to take him when he's trying to play you then yeah go ahead and visit.
Good Luck.
2007-03-25 09:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by hunsareretards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs all the support he can get. His family needs to be very supportive. Thank goodness for you. Good luck.
2007-03-25 09:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just send him a card saying that you support him. and that if he feels comfortable having visitors to call you. but if not that you support him, and are proud of him for getting himself straightened out.
2007-03-30 12:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in treatment. It has to be to help yourself. But it is good to know that you have support. No I would not call. If he wants you to know. When he's ready he will call.
2007-03-30 11:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by SHELLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not see him without family consent, and the approval of his psychiatrist.
2007-03-25 09:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋