i meet a new guy, we text for a few days, then we meet up. on the first date, he'll try to make out with me. after that, we'll continue texting for 2 to 3 days and then we stop contacting each other. this is how the story goes. this has been happening to me recently. a guy will not last for more than 10 days. i don't understand why. i mean, if all the guys have the same reaction, something must be wrong with me. is that right? or what? i don't understand why will the guys make out with me right on the first date when he's not even my bf or any sort? i don't even think they lik me. and worse, i don't know how to reject. so i end up giving in. can anyone teach me how to say no nicely? why cant the guys just stay longer in my life? why must they always go away so fast? i don't like how these sorta stuffs keep taking place in my life. it sucks. :( and, i've got a lot of pent up emotions within me. i want to vent it out, but don't know how to. any suggestions? can u help?
2007-03-25 02:10:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you may be attracting the wrong type of guys for some reason. All of them want to get in your pants and then dump you. It could be as simple as these guys are simply not interested in a relationship and are looking for some casual sex.
Do u dress provocatively? maybe that is why they want a quick hit & run?
Anyways, when ever a guy wants 2 make out, just tell him, hey, i dont even know u! take it easy.
2007-04-02 01:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by fozio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be harsh with you, not nasty, just harsh. There has to be a point where you stop being nice. Nice girls finish last, haven't you heard? As for the guys your meeting, where exactly are you meeting these losers? I would like to know to avoid that part of hell you have been visiting lately. It's time to grow some "girl balls". What are those you ask? Picture the actress Catherine Zeta Jones or Angelina Jolie. If your life was a movie that they where starring in, how would they play you? Like some wimp who gives in to some nameless loser so that they can be considered nice by said loser? I don't think so. Got a lot of pent up emotions? Take a kickboxing class, or anything that involves punching something. Stay away from the losers if you can't say no. Avoid the stress by removing yourself from it.
2007-04-02 04:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try meeting new guys in very public places until you get to know them better. DO NOT go anywhere secluded or private, that can give the wrong impression. If the guy has a problem with your choice of where to meet, too bad!!! YOU need to set your standards and set your boundaries - this is your personal responsibility - to, and for YOU. Without sufficient self respect, you are an easy target for predators. Predators will always prey on the "weak" and defenseless... it is not the predators fault, it's the prey leaving themselves out in the open. Any decent guy worth having around would not rush in to physical closeness with you... the bad guys leave because you were too easy. To them, that means you are too easy with anybody. It is easy to say NO! Just say it - NO! I DO NOT REALLY KNOW YOU AND I AM NOT A TOY!!!! BACK OFF!!!
2007-04-02 08:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because they only want one thing and I think you know what that is, if they got what they wanted they will end up leaving you because they already got what they wanted in the first place and think that you're way too easy if they didn't get what they wanted then will still end up leaving you and will look for someone else that's the way it goes with guys like that. What you need to do is knowing when and how to say no to that kind of guy say nicely at first if not, if that didn't work then you don't have to think about being nice anymore or else you'll be in big trouble. You need to be firm with your actions. =)
2007-04-02 05:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by gab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all-you have morals and you should keep strong with them. If guys won't stick around unless they get some kind of action they are pieces of crap and you should just move on. They are not worth your time. If they try to go in for a make-out session don't allow it to get to that point. If they still continue make it into a joke and just start singin that song that song by Fergie saying "but I ain't promiscuous" Get creative and have fun then neither one of you feel awkward you just laugh. Eventually mister right will come around who won't try to move to quickly and will stick longer then 10 days. You are young you've got a while so just enjoy life!
2007-04-01 04:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by ~never again~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, ive heard about this problem. but people are stereotyping guys because of it. not all of us are complete jerks. Do testing dates. if they try to make out with you on the very first date, just leave them, because they're only looking for.... you get it. If they don't, keep dating. go for the third date, that is the most critical. that is the date where you can let them make out if you want. if they don't leave you after the third date they usually actually like you. trust me, i know these things.
2007-04-02 08:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all u have to disipline urself on not giving in to guys with ur 1st date 2nd u have to show the guys that u are not that type of gurl that they could make out and ditch afterwards 3rd u can try to tell the guys straight up what u are really looking for and what you really wanted 4th wanna vent it out try going out with ur friends and try to look for a serious relationship. a bf has to accept you for whatever or whoever u he shouldnt be just trying to get into ur pants girl
2007-04-02 08:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by TAN R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time that happens dont give in . Tell them straight up that im not like that and if your looking for a gurl like that then me and u should not be dating. I kno it sounds mean but you have to do it. Becuz that will make him think any time he wants it he can get it from u and that is not good.
2007-03-25 09:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Denise S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women,who put out on first date are not,a relation ship,we men like to be teased then pleased,and you need to find that right guy he's out there,every woman I've been with are still in relationships with their next mate,i must really be an asshole,but all men are.
2007-04-02 08:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by herbert k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you watch national geographic this is how courting is done in the animal kingdom, however their goal is to procreate. what is your goal? if it is not sex let them knowoff the bat. maybe you are texting / sending the wrong message by flirting. good luck
2007-04-02 08:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋