We have been together for 2 & half yrs and he has left me 9 times , every time i have wined or complained , he just runs off to moms and he wont talk to me.Im his first girlfriend and he was 31 yrs old when i met him and always lived at home , never paid rent.People tell me , he does this because i keep taking him back,he doesnt even say hes sorry.I guess hes scared of this hole new girfriend thing ? But i cant take him back because i lose to much of myself , everytime i sit at home and feel unworthy of being a good girlfriend. Melly
2007-03-25 02:07:18 · 9 answers · asked by Melly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say but he is in the DEEP stages of a co-dependent relationship with his mother. He's not looking for a lover or someone to grow with. He's only looking for someone to replace her role as his nurturer. Any behavior outside of that and he goes running back to mama. Unfortunately since he's been at this for a while he may never realize that this is not healthy for him. I would recommend moving on. Taking him back just reinforces his behavior because he then knows he can go to you when things are not good with mom and vice versa when you complain. It will do nothing but leave you more and more emotionally scarred.
2007-03-25 02:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, from my own feelings on how much someone can mean to someone im giving you this advice because i can tell close to how you feel. if you need help letting him go, you should try finding a best friend male or female, and keep them as a friend and go out with them every spare moment u can, like to parties, just for a dinner, have a group-party not just you & a friend. and make sure the places u choose to go to dont constantly remind you of him, listen to new music to change that area of emotion so your body doesnt feel a part of him anymore. i know it doesnt really matter about my opinion on your x, but from what you said on how he is, i'd say that he isnt scared of the new girlfriend thing, i'd say that he cant get a grip with himself inside because you'v broken up 9 times, its extremely hard to find every feeling in every dimention of love when your hearts been broken/broken more than once. if you want to be with him, but want him to be the way he was when you absolutely loved every part him then i'd say, tell him exactly how you feel and what your seeing in him, if he doesnt listen and doesnt want any of it, then go ahead and try what i said on letting him go. hope this helps. M
2007-03-25 02:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very pathetic excuse for a man. I mean really, 31 and you are his first girlfriend? He lives with mommy? Something is wrong with this picture. And why would you take him back? 9 times, i wouldn't have taken him back the first time. Quit feeling sorry for yourself, go out have fun and enjoy the life you have, life is to short to let other people ruin it for you. And for goodness sake don't take that lazy bum back. Get a real life, find someone mature, loving, and independent.
2007-03-25 02:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this guy can't face a lot of facts -- he obviously hasn't grown up if he runs back to mom to help solve problems that should be discussed between YOU and him.
you are MORE than a worthy girlfriend. he's taking for granted an amazing, patient girl who cares about him -- any normal girl would've left a guy like him a long time ago.
i know it's hard, but you need to let him go. find a man who is mature and wants to talk WITH YOU, not about you.
you DESERVE the best!
2007-03-25 02:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by dietcokeaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to dump this looser! Don't worry about being with him. Hang out with your friends for a while. Take a vacation (without him). Do something for yourself.
Life's too short to be stuck with a looser, momma's boy!
2007-03-25 02:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one thing springs to mind... he's an attention seeker!
He keeps leaving you cos he's loving all of the attention he gets when you try so hard to get him back. DITCH HIM! he'll soon be the one whining and running after you!
2007-03-25 02:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific, he needs to pass on. seems such as you adult men had a good childhood dating. you will the two remember the different fondly, and that seems to be the way he needs it to be: a fond memory.
2016-11-23 14:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got alot on your mind if you really want to be with or letting you should break up with him
2007-03-25 02:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just move on and get anotehr guy
2007-03-25 02:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by punky89 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋